"Out" Everythingians
157 gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgendered/questioning noders!
Updated 23 March 2011

256
United Kingdom (1987)
409
(bi) Aberdeen, UK (1981)
aeschylus
Raleigh/Chapel Hill, North Carolina (1984)
agentz_osX
Livingston, UK (1975)
ameriwire
(bi) College Park, Maryland
ammie
Oakland, CA (1978)
Anacreon
Tel Aviv, Israel (1976)
Angela
Weymouth, Massachusetts
anonamyst
·
Any
Dorchester, Massachusetts(1979)
Ariamaki
(bi) Mogadore, Ohio (1987)
arrowfall
Seattle, Washington (1973)
avalyn
(bi) Detroit, Michigan (1976)
Avis Rapax
Glasgow, UK (1985)
banjax
Manchester, UK (1970)
Beanie127
UK (1991)
bender
Seattle, Washington (1984)
Bill Dauterive
Ohio (1974)
boi_toi
(bi) Cary, North Carolina (1984)
bookw56
(bi) New Jersey
BurningTongues
Quartz Hill, California (1980)
CamTarn
Glasgow, UK (1984)
cerberus
Edinburgh, UK (1979)
C-Dawg
Santa Barbara, California (1960)
chaotic_poet
Chicago, Illinois (1983)
Chris-O
(bi) New York
cruxfau
(bi) Omaha, Nebraska (1991)
Danneeness
(1990)
DaveQat
Milwaukee, Wisconsin (1980)
dazey
Edinburgh, UK (1976)
deeahblita
(polyamorous pansexual) New York City (1976)
dichotomyboi
Bryan, Texas (1984)
Digital Goblin
Chichester, UK
Dimview
(unspecified) Copenhagen, Denmark (1959)
drummergrrl
(bi) Washington, DC
eien_meru
Ada, Ohio (1985)
eliserh
Cincinnati, Ohio (1979)
*emma*
(bi) Placerville, California (1962)
endotoxin
Albuquerque, New Mexico (1977)
eponymous
(bi) Minnesota (1968)
Error404
(bi) British Columbia, Canada (1983)
etoile
Washington, DC (1981)
Evil Catullus
Denver, Colorado (1976)
Excalibre
East Lansing, Michigan (1983)
fnordian
(bi/trans)
fuzzie
(bi/trans) Wiltshire, UK (1984)
fuzzy and blue
(1979)
Geekachu
Owensboro, Kentucky (1975)
gleeme
(pansexual) Chicago, Illinois
Grae
New York City (1978)
greth
(trans-bi) Middletown, Ohio (1987)
grundoon
(bi) Davis, California
Herewiss
·
hunt05
Olney, Illinois
ideath
Portland, Oregon (1976)
illuvator
San Francisco, California (1984)
I'm The Pumpkin King
Los Angeles, California (1980)
indigoe
(bi, poly) Fort Worth, Texas (1985)
Infinite Burn
New York (1981)
izubachi
Chicago, Illinois (1985)
Jarviz
Linköping, Sweden (1981)
jasonm
(bi) (only out on E2)
J-bdy
Chicago, Illinois (1985)
jeff.covey
·
Jethro
Evansville, Indiana (1965)
JDWActor
Kansas City, Missouri (1978)
John Ennion
(bi) Kansas City, Missouri (1984)
Johnsince77
New York City (1977)
katanil
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (1986)
kidcharlemagne
Texas (1984)
Kinney
Manchester, UK (1975)
Kit
Moscow, Idaho (1984)
knarph
(bi, maybe) Baltimore, Maryland
labrys edge
Chattanooga, Tennessee (1983)
Lady_Day
Birmingham, UK (1983)
Lamed-Ah-Zohar
·
LaylaLeigh
(bi) Birkenhead, UK (1984)
liminal
(1975)

Luquid
Prince Edward Island, Canada (1981)
MacArthur Parker
Denver, Colorado (1980)
Magenta
(trans online) Las Cruces, New Mexico (1978)
melodrame
(bi) British Columbia, Canada
Meena
San Diego, California
MizerieRose
Boston, Massachusetts (1982)
Monalisa
Sydney, Australia (1975)
Montag
Glasgow, Scotland (1989)
moosemanmoo
Newport News, Virginia (1990)
morven
(bi) Anaheim, California (1973)
neil
Lexington, Kentucky (1981)
nmx
(bi) Massachusetts (1981)
NothingLasts4ever
(bi) Mainz, Germany (1972)
novalis
(bi) Philadelphia, Pennsylvania (1980)
oakling
(bi/trans) Oakland, California
ocelotbob
Albuquerque, New Mexico (1979)
Oolong
(bi) Edinburgh, Scotland (1978)
Oslo
Lincoln, Nebraska (1978)
panamaus
Santa Barbara, California (1968)
Phyre
Raleigh, North Carolina (1985)
purple_curtain
Birmingham, UK (1985)
qousqous
(bi) Portland, Oregon (1982)
QuMa
The Netherlands (1982)
rad
·
randir
Cambridge/Somerville, Massachusetts (1977)
Randofu
Maryland (1983)
Real World
Los Angeles, California (1982)
rgladwell
London, UK (1976)
Ryan Dallion
(bi) Vancouver, Canada (1982)
Saige
(trans) Seattle, Washington
saul s
Wisconsin (1985)
SB5
(bi) Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (1983)
scarf
Birmingham, UK (1986)
scunner
Leicester, UK (1989)
seaya
Baltimore, Maryland (1977)
seb
Seattle, Washington
Shanoyu
·
shaogo
(bi) West Hartford, CT (1956)
shifted
Lexington, Kentucky (1981)
Shoegazer
Little Rock, Arkansas (1985)
snakeboy
Los Angeles, California (1976)
Sofacoin
(asexual) Rhyl, UK (1986)
Sondheim
Brooklyn, New York (1977)
so save me
Birmingham, UK (1986)
Speck
(bi) Texas (1981)
Splunge
Boston, Massachusetts (1977)
stupot
Birmingham, UK (1975)
tandex
Columbus, Ohio (1968)
Tato
San Francisco, California
teleny
·
tentative
(bi) Australia (1992)
TheChronicler
Sacramento, California (1986)
TheLady
(bi) Dublin, Ireland
TheSoko
Holland, Michigan (1987)
Thumper
(bi) Walnut Creek, California (1971)
Tiefling
(bi) United Kingdom
tkeiser
New Jersey (1984)
Tlachtga
(bi) Philadelphia, Pennsylvania (1979)
Tlogmer
(bi) (only out on E2) Ann Arbor, Michigan (1982)
transform
Spokane, Washington (1980)
treker
·
TTkp
Centreville, VA (1984)
Ubiquity
(bi) Toronto, Canada (1974)
Wazzer
Newcastle, UK
Whiptail
·
Whiskeydaemon
(bi) Seattle, Washington
Wiccanpiper
Heyworth, Illinois (1957)
WickerNipple
(gender neutral) Brooklyn, New York (1977)
winged
Madison, Wisconsin (1976)
WolfDaddy
Houston, Texas (1965)
WoodenRobot
(bi) Wales, UK (1979)
woodie
Texas
wordnerd
Denver, Colorado (1979)
Wuukiee
(bi)
WWWWolf
Oulu, Finland (1979)
Xeger
Santa Barbara, California (1978)
Xydexx Squeakypony
·
XWiz
Norfolk, UK (1974)
Zxaos
Ontario, Canada (1985)

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(include your city of residence and year of birth, if you'd like)
You don't have to belong to the Outies usergroup to get your name up here, by the way.



About Outies

Outies is a social usergroup for noders who identify themselves as homosexual, bisexual, transgendered or just differently gendered. We also welcome those who are questioning their developing sexuality and feel they may identify with our group, but basically we\'re "Queers Only" here.

If you\'d like to join, you should know that the message traffic in this usergroup can sometimes be very high (as in edev-level). However, at other times there is no traffic for days. We\'re either flooding each other\'s message inboxes, or half-forgetting that we\'re even in the group. Note that as of March 2004, this usergroup is no longer moderated! Lots of off-topic prattle and inane ranting may and does occur. If the idea of logging on to find 150+ group messages within 24 hours really bothers you, Outies might not be your cup of tea.

If you do decide to join, we also add your name to the list of "Out" Everythingians (above). You don\'t have to be "out" in real life, just online. If you are "out" in real life, that\'s great! But we won\'t treat you any differently if you\'re not.

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Venerable members of this group:

Evil Catullus, panamaus$, ideath, fuzzy and blue, Oslo, Xeger, ocelotbob, Error404, boi_toi, tandex, eponymous, CamTarn, nmx, kidcharlemagne, Ubiquity, Excalibur, Splunge, MizerieRose, Sofacoin, Giosue, MacArthur Parker, Grae, Tlogmer, aeschylus, Tlachtga, oakling, XWiz, TheSoko, 256, Avis Rapax, J-bdy, Zxaos, eliserh, bookw56, scarf, Kit, wordnerd, katanil, dichotomyboi, Tato, eien_meru, TTkp, greth, WoodenRobot, tkeiser, indigoe, Tiefling, banjax, Ariamaki, chaotic_poet, moosemanmoo, Danneeness, shaogo, scunner, Beanie127, Whiskeydaemon, cruxfau, Oolong@+, tentative, Wiccanpiper, Hopeless.Dreamer., Chord, Dom Coyote, Estelore
This group of 64 members is led by Evil Catullus

Created by writer/actor/drag queen Charles Busch, this campy play has attracted significant notoriety, at least in part for its over-the-top title. The story begins in one of the ancient "twin cities" of Sodom and Gomorrah, where a virgin sacrifice to one of the titular vampire lesbians awakes and bites back, thus justifying the title's plural.

Centuries later, in 1920s Hollywood, our Nosferettes have become silver screen vamps, who continue to draw in and devour scantily-clad young women, with the help of scantily-clad male slaves. Eventually, their actions draw the attention of a vampire hunter, and they are required to make some lifestyle changes.

The pair meet again in the 1980s Las Vegas, where their undead lives have taken amusing turns, arguably for the worse. Eventually, they decide to stage the musical of their lives, which the audience is watching.

The play combines camp silliness, biting satire, outrageous costumes, semi-nudity, and infectious musical numbers such as "This Vixen's Gonna Bite Back." It opened in 1984 at the Limbo Lounge in New York's East Village, and in 1985 moved to the Provincetown Playhouse, where its 5-year run placed it among the longest-running off-Broadway musicals in New York theatre history.

Productions continue, from time to time, at least at those venues willing to stage something called Vampire Lesbians of Sodom.

In Britain in 1977 there were, quite simply, no openly gay public figures in any field; even in the relatively liberal world of entertainment the campest of comedians preferred to keep their sexuality as an (albeit open) secret, a matter that was just not discussed. The age of consent for male homosexual activity - legal at all only for a decade or so - was still 21 (five years older than the minimum age to serve in Her Majesty's Forces, four years older than the minimum age for a driving licence and three years older than you needed to be to vote) and some degree of homophobia was almost a social norm. The word "queer" had not yet been reclaimed by those whom it was used to denigrate. At the age of 17 I had in fact, as far as I recall, never met or had any dealings with anyone who was openly gay.

But this was also the era of punk, with the more nebulous "New Wave" on its coat-tails, and Malcolm McLaren had made shock into a selling point, so perhaps it was not such a surprise when rumours came through the music press of a new act1 that had made gay politics central to its very existence. Avid readers of the music press had certainly heard plenty about the Tom Robinson Band before they ever signed a record contract - in the end with EMI, who were seeking to make up for the debacle over their signing of the Sex Pistols.

The song was first issued on the TRB's Rising Free EP in 1978, their second 7" release after the cheerfully anodyne band-on-the-road song 2-4-6-8 Motorway; EMI were still too timid to consider releasing the song as a single in its own right; the EP format allowed the other songs - Don't Take No for an Answer, Martin, and Right On Sister to be given airplay by radio and TV stations too concerned for the sensitivities of their listeners to dare to play the lead track. Subsequently it was included on various compilation albums, and has been a permanent fixture as an obligatory sing-along encore in Robinson's concerts and cabaret performances ever since (with some alterations to suit the changing times, not least a verse on the portrayal of AIDS as a "gay plague" in the gutter press.).

The song is a simple enough one; a cynic might say that the combination of trendy politics, righteous anger and not deeply challenging music (and, not least, Robinson's own literate, approachable and thoroughly sane public persona) made it a winner, but it certainly caught the mood of youth culture of its moment and provided a timely and lasting boost to the long, slow struggle for gay rights in Britain.

(Sing If You're) Glad To Be Gay

The British police are the best in the world
I don't believe one of these stories I've heard
'bout them raiding our pubs for no reason at all
lining the customers up by the wall
picking out people and knocking them down
resisting arrest as they're kicked on the ground
searching their houses and calling them queer
I don't believe that sort of thing happens here
Sing if you're glad to be gay
sing if you're happy this way
Pictures of naked young women are fun
in Titbits and Playboy, page three of the Sun
there's no nudes in Gay News our last magazine
but they still find excuses to call it obscene
read how disgusting we are in the press
the News of the World and the Sunday Express
molesters of children, corruptors of youth
it's there in the paper, it must be the truth
Sing if you're glad to be gay
sing if you're happy this way
Have you heard the story about Peter Wells
who one day was arrested and dragged to the cells
for being in love with a man of 18?
The vicar found out they'd been having a scene
The magistrate sent him for trial by the crown
He even appealed, but they still sent him down
He was only mistreated a couple of years
cos even in prison they...
look after the queers
Sing if you're glad to be gay
sing if you're happy this way
So sit back and watch as they close all our clubs
arrest us for meeting and raid all our pubs
Make sure your boyfriend's at least 21
so only your friends and your brothers get done
Lie to your workmates, lie to your folks
put down the queens and tell anti-queer jokes
Gay lib's ridiculous, join their laughter
'The buggers are legal now -
what more are they after?
'
sing if you're glad to be gay
sing if you're happy this way
Tom Robinson, 19782

1. Actually Robinson had recorded an album under the supervision of Ray Davies with Café Society previously, but I don't recall ever hearing anything about it at the time.
2. Oolong informs me that TRB member Dolphin Taylor ("My good friend Dorrie's uncle") also claims to have co-written the song, although web sources seem to credit it to Robinson alone. Not that you should believe everything you see on the Internet.

"The fact is that more people have been slaughtered in the name of religion than for any other single reason. That, THAT my friends, is true perversion."

- Harvey Milk at a 1978 Gay Freedom Day rally. He was shot and killed later that year by Dan White.

Harvey Bernard Milk was born May 22, 1930 in Woodmere, Long Island, New York. His given name,  was Glimpy Milch. He attended college at Albany State College in upstate New York and graduated in 1951 with a minor in History and Major in Mathematics. He joined the Navy upon graduating and served on the U.S.S. Kittyhawk. He was discharged, after four years in the navy, achieving the rank of chief petty officer. There is dispute as to whether or not the disclosure of his homosexuality led to his discharge - while many say he was dishonorably discharged others say there was no evidence of this.

After the Navy he went back to New York and taught high school history and math on Long Island, then worked in a finance firm on Wall Street as a successful investment analyst. His first foray into the political stage was in 1964 when he campaigned for Barry Goldwater for president.

In the late 60's he began to work with his then boyfriend, Jack McKinley, in the Broadway production of the musical, Hair. This exposure to the late 60's counterculture began to make him take more notice of political issues, the gay community, and began to erode his conservative background. He traveled with the company, eventually taking a job in San Francisco as an analyst until 1969 when his relationship with McKinley ended. He returned to New York.

He returned to the Broadway environment and eventually began seeing Joseph Scott Smith. He and Smith moved to San Fransisco in 1972 where they opened up a "Castro Camera" at 575 Castro Street. At the time the area was more known for cheap housing than the Gay Mecca as it is more commonly referred to now.

He began his political career in 1973 when he ran for the Board of Supervisors. This first attempt was unsuccessful, but he did pull 17,000 votes and this encouraged him to continue.

Milk started his political campaigning as an openly gay man during a time when homosexuality was still considered a mental illness and a "crime against nature" by many. Admitting to it could, depending on the area, entitle one to public humiliation, institutionalization, or up to ten years imprisonment under backward city and state laws. He was out to make a point.

His dealings had taught him that, despite the sanctioned discrimination against gay Americans at the time, political power could come by unifying groups under a fiscal banner. Local merchant organizations wielded political clout in many ethnic neighborhoods in San Francisco so he used this as a template for building the CVA (Castro Village Association of local merchants). This united front allowed them to become a force of some influence. His work led to people calling him "the Mayor of Castro Street" - a title that he used abundantly to make himself thought of as an integral part of the political spectrum in San Francisco.

Milk believed strongly that coming out was the responsibility of every gay man and woman. He knew that, by staying in the closet, gay Americans were giving the government and populace the power to keep them there. By showing the public that homosexuals were in all parts of the social structure he knew that, by coming out, homosexuals would cease to be an invisible minority. His thought was not to force people to respect homosexuals but to respect the right to be homosexual. He saw the incongruity of the constitution guaranteeing "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" and separation of church and state, while sanctioning discrimination and persecution of Gay Americans - simply because they were gay.

As a politician he went from being a "gay politician" to a politician who just happened to be gay - and that was a huge step for the time.

He ran unsuccessfully again in 1975 and finished seventh. This did not stop his ambitions. Milk's words and political clout among San Francisco associations eventually led to his appointment in 1976 to the Board of Permit Appeals by Mayor George Moscone and made him the first openly gay city commissioner in the United States.

He was fired when he ran for a vacant State Assembly position against the wishes of the state democratic party and lost the election to Art Agnos.

In 1977 he ran again for City supervisor and won.

He is credited for a few ordinances the most notable being the passage of an ordinance protecting people from being fired from their jobs simply for the "crime" of being homosexual. It passed by a vote of 9 to 1 with the one dissenting vote coming from Dan White who fought it vehemently.

In 1978 he also worked successfully to fight California Proposition 6 that would require the state of California to fire any teacher found guilty of "public homosexual conduct". The proposition was rejected.

Milk's conflicts in with fellow supervisor Dan White eventually lead to Dan's resignation from the board of supervisors with the excuse that he could not live on the salary allotted to City Supervisors. The Police Officers association and Board of Realtors encouraged Dan to reconsider his resignation and offered to help him financially. White returned to George Moscone and asked him to re-appoint him to the board. Moscone made it little secret that he did not intend on reappointing White to the position.

On Monday, November 27th, 1978, Dan White loaded a .38 revolver and snuck in through a basement window into City Hall. He shot George Moscone in the chest, then in the head while he lay on the floor. He then went to Harvey Milk's office, asked him to speak privately, then shot Milk in the chest and the head as he had done Mayor Moscone.

White's defense, now called "The Twinkie Defense", was that he suffered from depression and had eaten too much junk food that clouded his reason- causing temporary insanity. The jury, swayed by his ex-cop status, good qualities and "moral" standings, accepted this defense and came back with a verdict in less than a half hour.

White was convicted of manslaughter, a far cry from the first-degree murder originally requested.

On May 21, 1979, the manslaughter conviction and sentence -seven years and eight months in Soledad State Prison- turned a protest at City Hall into a riot. The White Night Riot was the first gay riot since the Stonewall Riots in New York ten years before. The police retaliated with an unprovoked attack on the Castro district. They injured many gay people and the Elephant Walk bar was nearly destroyed. Its owners sued the city and were reimbursed for all damages incurred.   

White killed himself on October 21, 1985, less than two years after being paroled.

Harvey Milk was the first openly gay man to hold an influential public office, but he was more than a public official- that just happened to be gay. He was not naïve about the world or of his status in it, and understood the need for homosexuals to become a visible force to influence their own destinies, only from a visible place could they become a voice for change. They must come out - for the sake of all, not just the individual. The closeted life was a lie that had to be shattered.

He wanted the simple acknowledgement that homosexuals were human beings - not deviants, not perverts, potential child molesters, or a people undeserving of the same freedoms and rights enjoyed by their straight counterparts. He strove to show that being gay was as much of a choice as skin color or eye color. Being gay was something that one was, not what one had chosen. He wanted all closet doors shattered and the truth to come out for the good of all.  This was how he lived his life and this was the life he envisioned for those that would follow.

The man appointed to replace Harvey Milk, Harry Britt, was the only incumbent to win in the City election after the killings. He too was a politician who just happened to be gay.


...Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends, if indeed they are your friends. You must tell your neighbors. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once they realize we are indeed their children, we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo, will be destroyed once and for all. And once... once you do, you will feel so much better.

-Harvey Milk


References and further reading:
Randy Shilts, (1982), The Mayor of Castro Street: The Life and Times of Harvey Milk , New York: St. Martin's Press
http://www.backdoor.com/CASTRO/milkpage.html#index
http://www.encyclopedia.com/articles/08478.html
http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GRid=3579
http://www.findarticles.com/cf_dls/m1589/1998_Nov_10/54879376/p1/article.jhtml?term=
http://www.harveymilk.org
http://www.hicom.net/~oedipus/milk.html ("The Forgotten Populist" This is an amazing reference describing Milk's political views and processes- great info here)
http://www.kqed.org/tv/productions/hood/castro/resourceguide/harveymilk.html
http://www.lambda.net/~maximum/milk.html
http://www.notfrisco.com/colmatales/moscone/moscpic1.html
http://www.ohnonews.com/twinkie.html
http://www.queersf.com/education/harveymilkbio.html
http://www.queersf.com
http://www.queertheory.com/histories/
http://www.sbu.ac.uk/~stafflag/harveymilk.html
http://www.planetsoma.com/sf1970/scene/harvey.html
http://search.biography.com/print_record.pl?id=17646
http://students.itec.sfsu.edu/itec815summer/bcreane/teacher/resources.html
http://www.time.com/time/time100/heroes/profile/milk01.html
http://www.turnleft.com/out/milk.html

On the TV show The Simpsons, Patty Bouvier is Marge (Bouvier) Simpson's older sister, twin sister of Selma Bouvier. She is distinguished from Selma by her triangular earrings, circular necklace beads and pinkish dress.

Patty's only relationship with a man was a nearly one-sided fling with Principal Seymour Skinner, which she ended, giving the reason that she did not want to leave Selma. Marge told Homer: "It's Patty who chose a life of celibacy. Selma simply had celibacy thrust upon her." However, for many seasons, it was implied that Patty might be a lesbian -- when she sees Homer run through the house naked, she comments, "There goes the last lingering thread of my heterosexuality," and in a later episode she was seen coming out of the Maison Derriere burlesque house.

In February 2005, Patty came out to her sister and the world in the episode "There's Something About Marrying." When Springfield legalized gay marriage and Homer Simpson got ordained online so that he could officiate at these marriages, Patty and her golfer girlfriend planned a wedding in the chapel Homer has set up in the Simpson garage.