OK, so there's something out there--doesn't matter what it is--that's going to happen to you eventually, even though you don't want it to. This makes you feel hopeless. You don't like feeling hopeless, so you try to hasten the arrival of this thing that you don't want to happen to you in order to eliminate this hopeless feeling. You feel relieved when it's gone. Congratulations: you're a masochist.

Of course, there are also folks who just plain enjoy being tied up and whipped. I'm not sure how to explain them...

masochist: The paraphile fixated on the condition of being responsive to or dependent on being the recipient of punishment and humiliation in order to obtain erotic arousal and facilitate or achieve orgasm. As the partner of a sadist, a person may impersonate a masochist for commercial gain, within the limits set by the pain threshold.

Dictionary of Sexology Project: Main Index

masochist (plural masochists)

1. (n) someone who obtains pleasure from receiving punishment and/or pain

2. (n) someone who writes poetry on everything2

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