Live without sex can be fulfilling
. It can be lonely
. It can be just the same as life with sex except I wake up alone every morning. It gives me the mental space to explore other areas of life
. It allows me to get to know people on different levels
, without thinking "we'll have sex in the future" or "we had sex in the past".
I think the biggest advantage
to life without sex is that I don't have to mess with any birth control
. I've tried birth control pills in the past, and couldn't take them. I felt horrible. The hormones
did bad things to my body and my mind. They say I'm just sensitive, but I think there are a lot of women who are getting negative side effects.
The biggest disadvantage is that I miss sex
. I miss being close to another person. I miss intimacy
and morning coffee
ing together. I miss having someone to tell my day to - even if they are snoring
I realize many people practice abstinence
for large parts of their lives. Our childhoods (if we're lucky) for one. I don't think people over 75 or 80 have a lot of sex. I think nearly all of us have periods as long as several years when we are truly single. I'm in the midst of one of these periods. I've chosen money
over relationships, and am succeeding wonerfully.
My work prevents me from being in one place
long enough or often enough to form meaningful relationships. And I have come to the point where I realize that there is no point in one-night-stands. Good sex does not happen between strangers.
My biggest fear
is that this period of my life will not end, and I will be abstinent forever. But I've heard friends voice this same fear during their "slow times", and now most of them are happily involved - some are even married
! There's always hope