Reputation is something of an ephemeral issue.
If you were a doyenne
in the court
of doyennes, you'd be concerned with your reputation amongst the courtiers
, and the sorts of things which they uphold or look down on; just as, if you were a Midwest housewife church
-leader, you'd want to be seen as a paragon of that community
's values; and if you were a straight-up AVN pornstar
, you'd want fellow pornstars to think you had the thoughts and acts appropriate for that community.
It's all perspective
. And in every community, maintaining a reputation is some amount of work, varying by degree and by how much you care what others think (and how much you'd need to change your own being to suit them).
I, for example, am a vegetarian
in a world of weekend barbecue
fanatics, and a nudist
(to the extent possible) in a world where wearing pants is so the norm that going without is a shock. To my thinking, that's a very natural activity, so if others think differently of me for it, that's a problem in their heads, not mine. And that's really all of what "reputation" is anyway. Something other people who have their own problems have in their heads about you. But at the end of the day the thing which matters most is being satisfied to live within your own skin.