This topic may extend
into many territories
, but for the sake of being brief
shall deal primarily with the importance of being straightforward
and honest early
For instance, when "hunting" for the next special someone in one's life the advice most of one's friends and relatives will adhere to is "Be yourself". With this in mind, let this writing advise everyone to Be his-/herself. At first this may sound confusing but upon closer inspection may be the missing link in many an unsuccessful pairing. If a certain guy thinks toilet humor is the funniest form of entertainment, should he be searching for a female who thinks the contrary? Not if he's looking for a solid foundation in a relationship. So why, of all things, would this guy choose to avoid this part of his being (especially since humor is, in my opinion, the best topic of discussion when meeting someone for the first time)? Maybe he thinks, "No girls like that sort of thing," or, "That's not really a good topic to discuss if I want her to like me." But, if this is something that this guy is really into, would he want to date someone who didn't find humor in the same things he does? Chances are the relationship wouldn't last very long.
Or perhaps a different guy enjoys playing video games. In a conversation with a potential date, he brings up the subject. If the girl rejects him, is it really a loss? Too many guys (myself included) hate these kinds of rejections simply because it makes them feel perhaps nerdy, unsociable, or whatever.
Ultimately it boils down to this: If the girl he's talking to doesn't like the same things he does, what kind of relationship could possibly be held between the two? None.
The only way this doesn't apply is if both parties are looking for a one night stand or some-such meaningless physical fling. Shame on those that fit this category.