Me too. Sometimes I even fantasize
about rape. You don't? Liars.
Obviously I don't hate
myself, but those women do have a point, even if they lack a sense of realpolitik
in how they present it. First of all, let's face it-- we do have a more physical and even coercive
perspective on sex than women do. If we don't realize it, it's because we're totally immersed in it and have no external point of reference
. Almost all rape
is committed by men, therefore yes, technically
we are potential rapists
. No man is above it, and it's dangerous
when we start thinking we are.
Now, on the subject of the anger that you found yourself suddenly exposed to. I can't imagine what it must feel like to be raped, but I'm sure it would fuck me up for life. It hurts when you fancy yourself a 'sensitive guy
' and your nose gets rubbed in some mess you, or some other man, or men in general, have made. Still, as a relatively less-scarred individual
you at least have the ability
(and perhaps responsibility
) to detach yourself. To not take it personally. Because it isn't personal. It's raw
, pain lashing out at everything
. It has to have an outlet
. One of the best things we the unscarred can do for the world is to absorb this venom
Everywhere I go, I see things run by men. Competent
men, wise men
men, men who sincerely do believe in equality, but don't even notice that they're in a male-dominated
space. A testosterone Matrix
. That's why I try to put my ego aside and not begrudge
the protestors whatever miserable little scrap
they've symbolically claimed for the night. Everyone
needs their space.
PS: Ironic little piece of trivia-- apparently Katherine McKinnon
. To a man. Does anybody know how she reconciles that with her ideas about heterosexuality
being equivalent to rape?