In honor of Independence Day in my country I've decided to create some independence of my own. I've been watching the NeuroGym Innercise videos, these are short clips that talk about how to deal with a specific aspect of your life that may be bothering you. Today's lesson was dealing with the feeling of being overwhelmed. The strategy is simple and inexpensive, but it requires some work. First you write down all the things you want or need to do. According to the video just doing this will reduce the feelings by about fifty percent. I felt a great deal of relief seeing the things that have been on my mind on the three sheets of paper I had in front of me when I was done.
The second step involves reviewing your list for the top three most important priorities on it. For me these would be: Get a job, Complete my taxes, Connect with Jill and Jane. Tomorrow I can go apply for a job at a grocery store across town. I'm viewing this as a stepping stone. If I get the job I can lobby to move to the condo, I've already asked to do this, but it would strengthen my argument since I can walk or bike to work if I live at the condo and would need to drive if I live in the house. The IRS website hasn't been able to complete my request for a tax transcript. The only thing I can do is keep trying and hope that their website starts cooperating. I have my taxes done, but the IRS keeps rejecting my return because the AGI doesn't match what they have on file.
Even though I don't have the girls this week I can do things that will make next week smoother and healthier. This morning I listened to a parenting podcast where the guest was a transitional life coach who spoke passionately and sometimes eloquently about how transitions like divorce shake up the lives of us and our children. She emphasized taking time for yourself, connecting with children on whatever level you can, playing a game, taking a walk, and recognizing that there are going to be some bumps along the way. She's partnered with others, a mortgage lender, nutritionist, therapist, and professionals I've forgotten to help people cope and manage after a divorce.
Last week I read an article about how some of the most successful people in the world occupy their time. Another article I read today listed habits of successful weekenders, those people who make time for personal connections, reflections, hobbies, and volunteer work on their weekends so they're ready to tackle Monday morning when it comes. Part of their strategy involved unplugging and really focusing on what was in front of them whether it was exercise, their children, or simply time to sit in front of a window and think. I'm making time to read first thing in the morning. I started The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, a book I've started and put down several times. Successful people finish what they start, so I'm going to finish this book and others.
I'm going to rewrite my list of books I want to get from the library. I have a tendency to scribble down thoughts, books, and ideas onto whatever random sheet of paper is near me when the occasion arises. I'm going to stop doing that and commit to using single full sheets of paper that I can track easily. I put together a project binder that consists of paperwork I've been tackling that hasn't been completed for whatever reason. The first tab has my budget information in there. Other tabs have transferring stocks I own, statements, and future tax information that I'm going to need once this year's taxes have been completed. I have too many binders and calendars going. I need to simplify.
Sometimes it takes a scare to get me to change my behavior. I used to be committed to making my own stock, but gradually I stopped using it. Last week I felt like a molar of mine was hurting. A neighbor of mine had me rub an essential oil blend on it, but that was a temporary pain relief measure. I remember reading an article on how to mineralize teeth by eating more nutrient dense foods. The past couple of days I've made at least one meal out of stock, fish, butter oil, and cod liver oil. Not the most exciting of meals, but I feel so much better, and my toothache is gone. I tend to waver in the path of resistance. I need to commit to my priorities and act them out on a daily basis. A friend called me, I'm going to see her today. Life is better on the planning and prepared side, I'm excited about the upcoming week. I hope you are too.