Unfortunately, once the F plasmid
has been transferred, the recipient
" as well. This is a bit of a bummer, because bacteria
carrying the F plasmid are more susceptible to bacteriophage
attack. There's also no homosexuality
here - the F plasmid encodes coat proteins that prevent the F pilus
from attaching to the carier.
In other words, it's less roughly the microbial equivalent of a penis, except that everyone you have sex with turns into a man afterwards and you're not able to be gay and if you have one you give off a scent that causes dogs to come and attack you.
Thankfully, bacteria aren't intelligent enough to be severely screwed up by this.