In the context of True Love Waits, this term has been misinterpreted fairly widely from its original intended meaning.

While it can, certainly, be seen as "True Love, by its nature, waits until marriage to ardvark (Thank you Joe Bob Briggs, wherever you are)", this is not the correct way to interpret this phrase.

What it's really saying is that "True" Love, that is, Love in its truest Biblical sense, waits for sex and all other such things.

To elaborate: Love is one of the first principals of God, the bible, etc. It's a respect and humiltiy in regard for all souls, basically. There are various types, but at its utmost, Love at its truest puts others first, takes the long view, is patient, forgiving, humble, merciful, unselfish, non-judgemental, etc.

To try to judge this concept only in terms of the romantic phrase of "True Love" is to seriously misinterpret it. It has no bearing on romance, although certainly, romance taken in view of biblical love will certainly be more effective and long lasting, as any relationship based on the above qualities will certianly bring about a deeper bond between the participants.

Love's first principal, according to the Bible, before all others, is a Love of God as one's self.

I.e., to love the nature of God and His principals more highly than one's one desires, and to follow that nature closer than one's own.

Biblically, sex is saved for marriage, and is not held up as a release for stress and horniness, but the heighth of pleasure and expression between two married, loving people. A married couple who is not sexually active is not truly communicating, sharing, etc. Those participating in sexual activities in a premarital or fornication context, biblically, are (the word that comes to mind is defiling, but I think that will have the wrong spin in most minds) cauterizing their own ability to take part in marital love in its fullest, as originally designed, even apart from the influence of sin.

In terms of expression, Biblical love is an action, not a feeling. The whole idea that one loves those that one has feelings for, or basing such expression soley on feeling, is entirely alien to the biblical model. The Bible states that those we should love are our enemies, our neighbors, those we don't know. Not the easy answers, but those who are hardest to respect, to be humble before, to forgive, etc...those who need it most, quite likely.

True Love Waits, because to rush, to seek refuge in the "now", to live in the short term, is antithetical to the very nature of Love in it's Truest form.

What exactly is true love? The word "love" has become so understated and overstated that it has lost its true meaning. Most teenagers who think they are in love, is most likely just lust, or what you can think as "puppy love". Just because when either of them cries or gets hurt when the relationship ends, does not mean it is love, it's human nature to cry when something that once meant something is suddenly torn apart. When friends break up, crying is also very likely but it does not mean you loved your friend in that way. To determine true love, it is crucial to ask questions about your feelings, and to question yourself about the sacrifices that you will make because you love the person.

If it is true love, you will do everything in your power to make the person you love happy. Questions such as: "Am I willing to leave this relationship as to make him/her happy?", "Am I willing to wait forever for this person?" and lastly "Am I willing to sacrifice my life when it is needed for this person whom I love with all my heart?" Most people will say no to a lot of these questions and therefore obviously they do not in fact love the person as much as they thought they did. Love is also not about possession. It is not vital for an individual to possess (or be together with) the person he/she is in love with. Because as long as the person they love is happy, they will also be happy and content.

But of course this is all my opinion on what I think true love or at least love should be like. If the feelings are truely that strong then you would do everything in your will to create happiness for the other person.

true love is ... well... the body can't live on wine and cheese only. it needs plain bread and meat to thrive and flourish. likewise, love starves to death on high romance and wild passion alone. it's much more everyday and earthly than that. it's about the everyday living, it's about life, above all things.


Love's not about a dozen longstemmed red roses.
in fact it's about who's going to water the ficus dying in the corner or repot the african violet the cat knocked over.

Love's not about fine fancy meals and delicacies and bottles of expensive wine and candlelight.
instead it's about, when both of you are *swamped* with work and about to go insane, who will take a moment from their project to reheat the chicken in the fridge and fix a salad.

Love isn't about sitting in Paris, gazing at the amazing sights, it's not about sitting on a beach in hawaii watching in awe as the sun sets.
it's really about simply staring into the other's eyes, and seeing more beauty there than anywhere else in the world.

Love's not about taking a cruise through the tropics or bycycling across europe together.
it's rather about who will make the sacrifice to take the bus to work when one of the cars is in the shop.

Love isn't about the most passionate kissing or sex imaginable.
when the simplest touch, a finger-brush across a cheek, or a massage to untense stress-knots, means as much as anything, means the world, when that touch *says* love...
          ...*that's* love. love is SIMPLE. love is about the everday run-of-the-mill *life* you share.

With apologies to those of you of the more emotional persuasion, True Love is also the title of a reasonably successful PC-based Ren'ai (dating sim, often referred to as 'Gal Games'), translated from Japanese by Otaku Games.

You play a student at a prestigious Tokyo college who lives on his own in an apartment bought for him by his father. During the game, which runs from July one year to July the next, you meet and befriend ten female characters, all of which you have a chance of falling in love with. Your choices of what to do on any given day and what to say to the girls you meet affects the outcome of the game, and which girl, if any, you end up with.

The game is of course drawn in a manga stylee, featuring the usual plethora of wide-eyed, big breasted, slim waisted girls with unusually-colored hair. The girls also neatly fall into the usual gal game categories. There's the sporty one, the brainy one, the artistic one, the rebellious one, the one you've known since you were a young child, and the sister of your best friend. And obviously your hot female teacher.

As a sideline to the love-finding action, there is also some fairly explicit hentai content. It's definitely few and far between enough for the game to qualify more as a dating sim than an H Game, but what there is is pretty hot and steamy. Not that that's a bad thing. Anime chicks rule!

Now i'm going out into the physical world to find True Love for real...

True Love is a low-budget film, shot in 2004 by gay Los Angeles filmmaker Michael Saul. The film's gimmick is that it is a collection of seven vignettes, depiciting the range of emotional situations a gay man might experience at various points in his life, from childhood to comfortable old (well, middle) age. While sometimes wandering into the melodramatic, for the most part the film is remarkably affecting.

Nearly each vignette's story leaves you wanting more, a strong testament to the writing as well as the overall acting chops of Saul's extremely diverse, and completely unknown, cast. The film opens with a non-verbal musical introduction, called A Christmas Story. We are taken back via grainy film effect to Christmas, 1969 and a home movie of a young married couple and their two children, a daughter and son. As the story unfolds through visuals only, we see the young daughter thrilled with her gifts of makeup and pretty, frilly dresses, and the younger son grow increasingly discomfited with his gifts of basketball, toy trucks, and whatnot. The weakest link in the chain of stories in the film, A Christmas Story is the most melodramatic and over-acted of the bunch, yet still ends on a shockingly violent note that might catch some viewers by surprise.

The second segment, Going Gay is where the film, for this reviewer, really started. A teenage boy is picked up from a friend's house by his father, and on the drive home we're informed by their strained, diffident, and angry conversation that the two teenagers were discovered in bed together, doing what some boys do. When the father demands to know his son's sexual preference, in order so that "we can do something about it," if necessary, the young man angrily exits the moving vehicle and returns to his friend's house to confide. During this conversation we discover that one of the young men isn't as gay as was first thought, and that the other is absolutely heartbroken by that knowledge. The story ends (as do a couple of others) with rising, discordant music, casting the pall of a possible (offscreen) gay teen suicide over the scene.

The third story is the most powerful and disturbing of the bunch. In History we see a young gay man just out of college having dinner in a restaurant with his favorite relative, his middle-aged uncle--who also happens to be gay. The conversation they have over dinner starts out pleasant enough, but as it progresses, the viewer begins to feel a little bit uneasy at some of the suggestive and confrontational remarks made by the younger man. The climax of the story occurs when the younger man accuses his uncle of molesting him when he was twelve years old, but the manner in which this accusation is made suggests that the younger man may also be somewhat mentally unstable. By the time the story ends, the viewer is left clammy-skinned and cold as the realization is made that an innocent man just might be the victim of a vicious blackmail attempt. The motivations for each character's behavior are left largely up to the viewer. Was the young man indeed molested as a child? Did that "make" him gay? Is someone being blackmailed? Is the accuser a victim, a cunning criminal, or seriously unhinged?

Next up is a very short segment, Sunday which is refreshingly loving and normal. We see an older couple in bed, just waking up on a Sunday. That's pretty much it, but its quite delightful after the uncomfortable nature of the first three scenes. A pause, so to speak, to reflect that true love can be relatively painless for men willing to commit deeply to one another.

In He Was Perfect, a young college-aged man, obviously more uncomfortable with being visibly out of the closet than most of his clubkid friends, experiences love at first sight from across the dance floor. Becoming somewhat obsessive over this find, the main character through a series of events manages to snare the object of his affection, yet ends up having his romantic delusions irreparably shattered by the end of the scene. The most emotionally cold of all the vignettes in the film, He Was Perfect demonstrates that, indeed, true love can hurt, and hurt utterly.

The next segment, entitled Staying Together we see the dregs of a party thrown by a couple of gay men in their late 20s (or early 30s). As the party winds down, the couple, one of whom is HIV positive have a confrontation in the kitchen about their shared past leading them to speculate why they've maintained their relationship for so long. As counterpoint the--somewhat inebriated--posse of the couple's friends also wonder the same thing. By the end of this story, we discover that the commitment the couple has to one another may be somewhat uneven, but nonetheless incredibly strong.

The final story, A Little Drama ends the film as it began, with music, and no dialogue. During a (college? high school?) production of Romeo and Juliet we are treated to a backstage view of the play, centering on a young man running the light board. As the play progresses, we see him become utterly enthralled...but is he falling in love with the good-looking actor playing Romeo, or simply being overcome with the dramatic power of Shakespeare? As the music fades to its denouement, the story ends with one soft, sweet kiss, but we are left--as in so many of the stories that make up True Love--with (sometimes bitter, sometimes sweet) ambiguity.

Overall the film is impressive in its general refusal to give us all the details. There are hardly any feel-good happy endings here, yet all the endings are satisfying in their own ways. They conclude, for the most part, logically and with an emotional zing based on what has gone before, yet always leave the viewer with questions. That's rare in most mainstream filmmaking today, and a refreshing change from many modern queer films, which either end in utter darkness or overdone Hollywood heavenly joy. True Love tries to demonstrate that the world consists of shades of gray, and that feeling "true love" is no exception.

It was tough to format the (quite extensive) production credits for this movie without overwhelming the whole node itself, so instead of listing cast and behind the camera crew, I direct you to the movie's website, www.truelovemovie.com, or entreat you to visit the IMDB.

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