It happened to me today. I took the train in Bondi
Junction and noticed an attractive girl
sitting a few rows of seats in front of me, facing my way (For those of you who don't live in Sydney
the trains here have two levels and the seat direction can be changed, so you're not always facing the direction of travel.) I noticed that she wasn't particularly stunning, but had an appeal I could only describe as "oomph
." I decided to carry on looking at her, seeing if she would notice it. Surely enough, after a couple of minutes she noticed she was being looked at. I wasn't staring
or anything, as I made a concious effort to look in other directions, but every few moments I'd look her way again, in the hopes that my gaze
would be returned.
And then she did it. She stared at me with the same determination as me. And we continued to look at each other across the rows of seats and between other people's heads. The feeling that overcame me was amazing. I felt a bit embarassed but more joyous than anything else. And so we continued to stare at each other, for about 10 seconds or so (it seems an eternity
in that kind of situation). This happened two or three times before I got off at Town Hall Station
to go to work.
No, nothing happened. I didn't talk to her, she didn't talk to me. I wasn't willing to do that. But that moment felt so good that now I will make it a point to practice the eye contact game
until I get it right and it no longer feels uncomfortable. You guys should try it. There's no harm in it, just pick a random target in a train, bus, ferry, cafe' or food court and see how great it feels.