Trina's writeup should be taken as gospel, with one small amendment ....

There IS one important rule:

Do NOT make love to "a victim of sexual assault"

Make love to a person.

An individual who had something happen to them. That something is NOT who they are.

Dear Trina and y'all others reading,
I'd hope no-one would be offended by Trina's wonderfully detailed and positive writeup. But even the best of noders sometimes misses important points ;o)