In sex we find all the things we lack in everyday life. People who have to be strong for others can let themselves feel weak. Those who are kept from showing their strength can be as strong as they need to be in bed. People who spent years not feeling cherished without strings can be the held and kept safe.

Sometimes we don't even know that these things are, or were, missing in our daily lives until we stop and look at what we crave in bed. Every fantasy and fetish, no matter how banal or bizarre, has a reason behind it. Find that reason, explore those needs with a loved one and apply what you learn to bringing a healthy balance in your everyday life.