This girl and i 'met' only about 5 months ago, i say met because we have been familiar with each other for years but only because my friends were friends with hers. we never spoke directly but i always noticed her looking at me on the rare occasion of us being in the same room together, and i always looked back because there was something about her i liked. She has a lot of friends who are guys and for this reason i always thought she was taken so i never thought twice about her.
Now fast forward to about 5 months ago. one of my friends introduces us. And we quickly started spending a LOT of time together watching movies, going to bars and generally finding out about each other. this is when i realised i REALLY liked her. She told me some very personal things about herself and i also told her things of the same nature. This made me even more attracted to her because she is a very shy girl and i know it took a lot to tell me. i also made my feelings clear at this point by asking whether she would like a boyfriend, to which she said yes in an embarrassed kind of tone which made my heart melt. i then asked if she would go out with me and she said maybe when we get to know each other more. She then said the thought of a relationship scares her as she previously had a (i presume rocky) three year relationship which had ended. fair enough i said, you will be worth the wait.
Now after five months of getting to know her and my opinion of her shooting through the roof i ask her if she has feelings for me, to which she replys 'yes, but not enough to be your boyfriend' the reason she would not go out with me is because she is 'scared she will mess me around and be messed around.' but it is clear here that we are two people who could have a very serious, loving relationship that could go on for years or eternity should she allow me.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do now, i know she has feelings for me but she is very protective of herself. Over the last few days we have poured our hearts out to each other and it is clear she was damaged by her previous relationships and says she wouldnt want the same to happen to ours. She also keeps saying she is scared that SHE will 'mess things up' and it will end up being all her fault and this hurts me because i know she is just scared and is aching to be taken and loved.
I have told her exactly how i feel and dont know what else to do she is smart, funny, totally intelligent, goddamn sexy and we have a million and one things in common. If we never did get together it would be a blatent waste of two people who could definitly go on to love each other. She has told me she has feelings for me but she just doesnt know how to go about getting them across to me. It would be total waste and a damn shame if we never got together because i have deep, deep feelings for her and i think she is simalar. How do i connect with her and make her understand that whatever doubts she may have, they should be put aside at least for this one time.