this is a
rant.
helpless females suck. they make
normal females look bad. acting
weak and inept is not a good policy. it puts you in a position of
subservience and it's
an ugly thing to watch.
everyone probably knows at least one of these
women. for me, the mother of an
ex-boyfriend epitomizes the
personality disorder beautifully. she was recently
divorced, but her former
husband still mostly supported her, to his own detriment. though her daughter (a
helpless female in training) lived with her, everything the kid wanted or needed was supplied by daddy. and daddy wasn't rich. daddy lived in a
singlewide until it burned down and worked as a
long distance trucker. yet his
ex-wife enjoyed a very
comfortable lifestyle, despite the fact that she worked about 20 hours a week as a waitress in a
bowling alley.
overall, the woman was
incompetent. she couldn't move by herself. she couldn't check her oil, she couldn't
change a tire. if her son was with her, she had him pump the gas. her
finances were constantly a
dangerous mess ('
i'm just so bad at math!'). she went to
community college briefly, but never took anything but beginning level nursing and secretarial courses. she was very
delicate and would often miss work because she didn't feel well, a side effect of her constant
dieting - note that to be a helpless female, you pretty much have to rely on men, meaning you put a lot of effort into meeting
conventional standards of beauty. she forgot things, all kinds of things, and would call upon her son or her ex or one of her
many boyfriends to take care of them for her, dropping whatever they were doing at the time. ..etc., etc.
why is this so
upsetting? because it's so easy.. it's almost
appealing. you
make a deal with men in general: you will play defenseless and they will
protect you. you will make them feel
manly and strong and they will spend money and effort on proving you right. you will give up
the right to disagree and they will fight your battles. apparently, that's how things worked for centuries. women could exert no power over their own lives, they needed a man as a
mouthpiece, so they made an arrangment.
it seems
unsafe and
unwise to me, to
depend wholly on other people. if you can do nothing more than
cry and wring your hands when you blow out a tire on the freeway, you're in some sort of
danger. you're setting yourself up to be
taken advantage of if you fail to learn how to function independently within your normal environment.
what pissed me off most, during the tenure of my relationship with this woman, was her reaction to my life. when i let it slip that i could perform
basic maintenance on my vehicle, that i enjoyed math and wanted to major in
computer science, that i had been working and helping to support my family since i was fifteen, she would
mock me. she explicitly expressed amazement, but implied that i was a fool or a
freak, the same reaction i got when she saw my
tattoo or my more interesting clothing.
i've been
tempted to live that way. i've had rich boys offer me things, in exchange for my
doting on them while letting them treat me however they chose. i decided
it wasn't worth it. and for a while i wanted to
take back that decision - i called my mom and half-jokingly told her off for raising me to think of men as
untrustworthy providers. but i got over it and i can't say why. i'm not certain that
my life will be better than that woman's, that i won't end up working a similarly
crummy job without the benefit of financial aid from
suitors. i guess i just feel better knowing that whatever i have or accomplish, i get to take credit for, and that if i'm ever in
trouble, i don't need to look to someone else for
help because i've learned that
i can rely on myself. and i know
i'll always be here for me.