Poly Geek Relationship Disclosure Form

version 1.03
Form PGRDF/1.03, for people met recently at parties in whom a more-than-just-friendly interest has been mutually discovered and disclosed.

Purpose: Form PGRDF/1.03 is intended to disclose important relationship information in a humorous way, getting things out into the open where they can be discussed without the longer period of awkwardness associated with the early phases of Relationship Guessing Game RGG/inf. RGG/inf. has been proven to be non-terminating in some cases.

Disclaimer: PGRDF/1.03 is not a replacement for RGG/inf. It will still be necessary to complete RGG/inf in most cases. PGRDF/1.03 is intended as a supplementary disclosure form only, and will usually only enable skipping to a later and less awkward section of RGG/inf.

Notice: Usage of this form is largely restricted to poly geeks. Most of the issues dealt with herein relate to poly relationships, and most non-geeks experience difficulty filling it in honestly due to insufficient dread of RGG/inf. Attempts at use by non-poly people will be largely irrelevant; attempts at use by non-geeks, for best results, should be monitored by a geek who knows the filer well.


  1.  Right now I 
            ( ) Am
            ( ) Am Not
            involved with anyone else.  
    
            If so, please indicate numbers.  Note, one partner can 
            be included in more than one category.  You may attach 
            text explaining your answers if you so choose.
    
            My romantic partners include 
            ( ) legal spouses, 
            ( ) Lifetime commitments, 
            ( ) parents of my children, 
            ( ) very close, ongoing, emotional relationships, 
            ( ) friends whom it's okay for me to be sexual with,
    	( ) people whom I'm dating,
            ( ) people with whom I can indulge in non-mainstream 
                (kink or fetish) sexual activities, 
            ( ) partners of the opposite sex, 
            ( ) partners of my own sex,
            ( ) live-in partners,
            ( ) partners with veto power over new relationships, 
            ( ) partners with veto power over ongoing relationships, 
            ( ) partners with whom you will be expected to be romantically 
                or sexually involved, if you get involved with me. 
            ( ) Total partners.
    
  2. I have ( ) children.
           ( ) of them live with me full-time.
    
  3. Right now, I am interested in 
            ( ) Friendship
            ( ) Cuddling/Smooching
            ( ) Talking (includes ordinary emailing) 
            ( ) Sexy Emails
            ( ) Sex
            ( ) Kinky Sex
            ( ) Starting a Short-term Relationship
            ( ) Starting a Long-Term Relationship
    
  4. If things go well, within a few weeks of starting a
            relationship, I will be interested in: 
            ( ) Friendship
            ( ) Cuddling/Smooching
            ( ) Talking (includes ordinary emailing) 
            ( ) Sexy Emails
            ( ) Sex
            ( ) Kinky Sex
            ( ) Group Sex  
            ( ) Starting a long-term Secondary Relationship
            ( ) Starting a Long-Term Primary Relationship.
    
  5. This relationship won't meet my needs if it doesn't provide 
            or allow for: 
            ( ) Friendship
            ( ) Cuddling/Smooching
            ( ) Talking (includes ordinary emailing) 
            ( ) Sexy Emails
            ( ) Sex
            ( ) Kinky Sex
            ( ) Group Sex
            ( ) Starting a Long-term Secondary Relationship
            ( ) Starting a Long-Term Primary Relationship.
    
    
  6. If things continue to go well, within a few years I might 
            want to:
            ( ) Move in together.
            ( ) Have children
            ( ) Get legally married
            ( ) Have an open marriage
            ( ) Purchase a home
            ( ) Earn a degree
            ( ) Have a plural marriage.
    
  7. A long-term relationship would not meet my needs unless it 
            provides or allows for: 
            ( ) Moving in together.
            ( ) Having children
            ( ) Getting legally married
            ( ) Having an open marriage
            ( ) Purchasing a home.
            ( ) Earning a degree.
            ( ) Having a plural (non-legal) marriage.
    
  8. I am
            ( )So het, it's boring.
            ( )pretty much heterosexual.
            ( )Bi, with strong het leanings.
            ( )Bisexual.(Kinsey number between e and pi).
            ( )Bi, with a stronger attraction for my own sex.
            ( )pretty much gay/lesbian.
            ( )exclusively gay.
    
    
  9. My sex drive is
            ( )out of control/insatiable.  A real problem.
            ( )unusually strong, very hard to resist.
            ( )healthy, ranging toward high.
            ( )about average, I guess. 
            ( )a bit below average, usually. 
            ( )something I can keep in check with no problem.
            ( )so little, I feel like I'm missing out.                
    
  10. For sex, latex is: 
            ( )Required, at least in the beginning, 
            ( )Allowed, 
            ( )Required, in all but my closest relationships.
            ( )Required, period, unless trying to conceive.
    	( )Required for some activities but not others.
    
    
  11. I'd prefer a Primary relationship:
            ( )with only one person.
            ( )with several people, separately.
            ( )with several people, all together.
    
    
  12. I could live with a Primary relationship: 
            ( ) with only one person
            ( ) with several people, separately
            ( ) with several people, all together.
    
    
  13. I require my primary SOs' secondary relationships to be: 
            ( ) people well known to, and close friends with, me.
            ( ) people I know and who are willing to talk with me.
            ( ) people who aren't actively hostile to me.
            ( ) people who are NOT trying to end my relationship.
            ( ) people my SOs' see only with my approval.
            ( ) people who are likely to become primary partners.
    
    
  14. I require my own secondary relationships to be: 
            ( ) people well known to, and close friends with, my
                    primaries.
            ( ) people known to and who are willing to talk with my 
                    primaries.
            ( ) people who aren't actively hostile to my primaries.
            ( ) people who are NOT trying to end my primary
                    relationships.
            ( ) people I see only with my primary SOs' approval.
            ( ) people who are likely to become primary partners.
    
    
  15. I have about 
            ( ) Less than 5
            ( ) 5-10
            ( ) 10-15
            ( ) 15-20 
            ( ) More than 20 
            hours during the work week that I could spend with a 
            new relationship, not including time spent asleep.
    
    
  16. I have about 
            ( ) Less than 5
            ( ) 5-10
            ( ) 10-15
            ( ) 15-20 
            ( ) 20-30 
            ( ) 30-40
            hours during most weekends that I could spend with a new 
            relationship, not including time spent asleep.
    
    
  17. Logistical considerations: 
            ( ) I am car-less.
            ( ) I share a car with someone else.
            ( ) I am pretty broke right now.
            ( ) I share a home with someone else.
    
    
  18. My phone number is: 
            (              )
            Good times to call me include: 
            (                     )
    
    
  19. My email address is:
            (                  )
    
    
  20. My religious/spiritual persuasion is:
            (                                  )
    
    
  21.  Gregariousness:
             ( ) I am a rabid party animal without a leash.
             ( ) I like to go out and socialize/do stuff, but can 
                    be coaxed into staying home.
             ( ) I'm kind of indolent, but fairly easily coaxed 
                    out into the world.
             ( ) I prefer small gatherings of people known to me.
             ( ) I'm dead center of the Introversion/Extroversion 
                    Scale, or at least I skip rope with the line a lot.
             ( ) I'm damn sociable for a hermit...sometimes. Mostly 
                    I prefer to stay home.
             ( ) You mean there's a world outside my house? Fancy that!
    
    
  22.  I am "out" about being poly:
            ( ) To everyone, and rather vocal about it
            ( ) To people if it comes up in conversation
            ( ) With my friends
            ( ) With my closest non-poly friends
            ( ) With other polys
            ( ) With my partners
            ( ) With my co-workers
            ( ) With my family
            ( ) Still in the closet
    
    
  23. PDAs involving secondary partner(s) are acceptable:
            ( ) Anytime, anywhere
            ( ) Within the bounds of good taste
            ( ) With my primary partner(s)
            ( ) Around other polys
            ( ) Never
    
    
  24. PDAs involving primary partner(s) are acceptable:
            ( ) Anytime, anywhere
            ( ) Within the bounds of good taste
            ( ) With my secondary partner(s)
            ( ) Around other polys
            ( ) Never
    




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