As used by mundanes
, a ceremony
taking the place of a wedding
whereby one a) doesn't have to formally divorce
if things don't work out, b) doesn't have to invite potentially uncool parents
, and c) can have all your friends, whatever music you want, write your own vows and ceremony, and pontificate on how awesomely traditional
it all is -- in short, all the fun, pageantry
, and free loot
of making your sex life public without the messy responsibility
of grafting two families. In the same category as engaged-to-be-engaged
, and any number of other little rituals that lovers design for themselves when they decide that no one's ever felt exactly like this before, and so, any established cultural ritual (from anything less than say, five hundred years ago and/or in the American sphere of influence
) is inadequate to express their joy. Participating in a ceremony outlawed in the Catholic Church
by the Council of Trent
gives a certain...spice to the occasion.
Incredible how many people decide they're Wiccan when they're in love.