If it's one thing I've learned, it's how to be a friend (or at least I try to) when somebody needs you. I needed one today, and everyone I tried to go to didn't quite do it right. Here are my tips:
  • Listen. Everything your friend is saying is important. Listen to what they're saying behind the words, underneath the words, the things they're saying but not really saying.
  • Don't let them run away. If they say they don't want to talk about it or they just want to go to sleep, don't let them.
  • Prod them. Ask them questions. Don't take the short answers, get detail. Be interested.
  • Don't be a selfish asshole. They are needing a friend, not you. The conversation should not be 90% you and 10% them. Don't blurt in all your own damn stories.
  • Let them know you care. Sometimes the truth can be the most precious thing. It's nice to be told sometimes that someone cares about you and that they are there for you.

All I can think of now. Welcome to add stuff.

Everybody makes mistakes and acts immature at times, and it's easy for people of a more shallow sort to rather go on forever hating former friends indefinitely and never fix things up. If it's one thing I've learned, it's how important it is to grow up and end the hatred. Here are my tips:

  • Everyone is human. So everyone will make mistakes or get carried away with their emotions now and then. You'll never be happy if you hold grudges for such things, because everyone you ever meet will eventually mess up.
  • Forgive. You'd be surprised at how much better things become almost instantaneously if you just let go a little.
  • It takes two to have a conflict. It's a guarantee that if you have conflict in your life, you're equally responsible for it.
  • Don't have regrets. You'll never be rid of the regret that you acted like an ass and shunned someone, so you might as well not do it so that you can keep your conscience clear.
  • Communicate. The old adage that time heals all wounds isn't really as deep and true as people sell it to be. You have to talk things through, always.
  • Don't be a selfish asshole. Grudges are petty little selfish needs for revenge.

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