I will happily dispute
the claim that bullying is magically solved by telling, in Britain
I have been bullied, many times. Many many times. For about 7 years now. I told the teacher
. That's fine, you think, until you realise...
You're going to have to face the same people each day.
The same person.
The same bully.
Now look at the social changes going on in Britain. I have to say that, in the UK
amongst my peers, respect (in general, not just for any specific group) has plummeted. The import of US gang culture
(it is happening, trust me) has resulted in lots of violent
kids, who don't care about punishment
Being punished is seen as a sign of strength and endurance
(look at the respect afforded to those who have been in prison by the new British "rude boys
", while at the same time, nobody wants to own up for their crimes or take responsibility
for their actions.
Lets say you have a maths
group. Two people are talking to each other-the teacher catches them, and threatens a punishment-a detention
Before, these two would probably think "Shit, if we talk again, I'm gonna get a detention. Better STFU
.". Now, one of the people who talked would proclaim loudly that "Ah didn't do nothin!!!!!", talk again, then get a detention
The detention would be forgotten, it would be shrugged off
. The difference is that because nobody wishes to take responsibility for their actions, they will ignore the punishment and talk again.
Bottom line: Punishments do not work.
They don't. Simple as that. Add into this that if you tell someone, you have (according to popular opinion) shown yourself to be a weakling because you have "dob
bed someone in", you have a tricky situation. Bullying results in telling which results in punishments which result in complacency
towards said punishments which leads to disregard
for rules which leads to more bullying. It is a vicious circle.
How do I recommend dealing with this then?
Now, think about this.
If you break the rules, you have essentially broken an unwritten contract whicb you entered into upon joining the school. Therefore, you are unfit to be in the school and should leave.
- Bullying shows you have no regard for the pupils or the rules. Continued bullying, after punishment has been given, shows a disregard for the pupils, the rules and the staff. If you don't listen to the staff, you obviously don't care about school at all and should leave.
- Expulsion is not a cakewalk. Expulsion doesn't last for an hour after school, it lasts forever. Finality gives weight to a punishment (although, admittedly, this is an argument used in favour of capital punishment and it carries no weight at all there).
- If you are expelled, you are prevented from bullying further. If you bully the person outside of the school, that becomes a matter for the police, in which case you are in even deeper shit than you were before.
Now doesn't it make sense?
Bullying is a complex problem, which is exacerbated by a large number of influences upon behaviour. The Damilola Taylor
murder (though an extreme example) shows that many people my age are becoming more violent
, and do not care about the consequences of their actions. Although making the consequences
harder may not help that much, it is still a step in the right direction
Please /msg me if you would like to hear a bit more politik.