pure, concentrated manipulativeness. something you say to your so when you want something you've got no real right to be asking for. however, the absurdity of your request, if you deliver the line properly, should be overlooked when your sweetiepie goes on the defensive.

see, your statement should be received as a black and white scenario where either the so does what you wanted them to do or they don't love you at all and they're an evil fucker and you go to your bedroom and cry for hours and eventually your so devotes tons more effort into making up with you than would have been necessary, had they just given in and done what you asked in the first place.

there are lots of subtle variations on this, but all of them are completely evil. and, for the record, it's not just girls who play this game. boys do it, too - i've known some of them.

I've had this line used on me by former girlfriends. I came up with a stock response to it:

"If you loved me you'd retract that last sentence completely, then just ask me to do (insert what they wanted here) without that insulting restriction. If it's something I can do for you, I normally would, so why act as if my love depends on (insert what they wanted here)?"

My wife of 14 years has never used this line on me. If a person feels that their SO's love depends on some non-related action, it's time for that SO to find a new relationship.