first an aside,
(moving into the everything editor after using
vi for a few hours is really confusing);)
for me ejaculation is just cumming, although
correlated with orgasm, they are separate
feelings after ejaculation are relief, satisfaction,
it's a bit like blowing your nose. sometimes
it happens quickly, sometimes there is a long build up
and the relief is greater.
The relief is physical, it comes from the loins.
orgasm is a mental phenomenon. It has happened to me
too too infrequently. It shakes you to the very core of your being, it feels like the top of your head is being unscrewed
and light is being poured in. There is no room
for thought as all of the fireworks going off in your head
are getting in the way, it is trembling in your lovers arms
not in control what you say, a babble of words flowing,
i love you i love you hold me hold me ..,
you can't breath you're breathing too quickly
and after, after somebody has tipped you up and shaken
the insides of you out and around the floor
and you are lying naked mentally and physically all you can do is lie there holding, being held, and sure
you might have ejaculated, but who noticed?
i think anticipation, affection, trust are all required.
medically its akin to a minor bout of epilepsy. you
have to be able to trust the person that you are with
as you are going to be revealing yourself so deeply to them.
A girl i knew one brought me to orgasm by just trailing her hair across my back, back and forth, and kisses here
Of course this is just my experience. I guess for
everyone its different
(otherwise why are there no "hair trailing across back" mags
on the news stands?)