It sounds as if you are looking for an
answer to this question - namely, how one might overcome a fear of
death.
Let me warn you, before I say any more.
There is no way to avoid fearing death. Fearing death is natural and a basic instinct necessity to survival. The results would not be desirable if we were not afraid of death. See
suicide and
Heaven's gate.
Lots has been said on this subject, but I think the shortest and most mind boggling one is also the most interesting. It was said by the greek philosopher
Epicurus, and reads as follows:
When we are, death is not; and when death is, we are not.
To paraphrase:
- Death represents the degeneration of the body.
- The soul cannot live apart from the body.
- Therefore, in death, the soul cannot be present.
So, death is something that we will never directly experience.
Epicurus concluded that it would be futile for us to spend our time fretting over it, for this reason.
An interesting notion. However, although logical, it's not very
comforting to most people... though it is an interesting
mental exercise. The moral of the story is:
Don't curse your fear of death. See it as motivation for you to enjoy life. Death is not meant to be solved, and does not have to result in suffering. Death is simply the other side of the coin of life.