This is a hard subject. I have been in situations, where my current love intrest had been living thousands of miles away. We met, and fell
in love in the same
areacode. We kept the relationship going by travelling frequently, and running up huge
long distance bills. I have also been in the unfortunate situation of meeting, then
"falling in love" when we were apart. That wasn't a good thing.
When you have a big physical absense, yet the
emotional closeness it can fog your vision. It is easier to dismiss
faults, those little nagging things that seems to often get in the way. It is also possible to build up your
love to a point of impossibility. There reaches a point where even the most
perfect person, can never compare to this perfect image in your mind. A lot of people can get hurt this way.
Nothing can match the reality of two people living their lives together. No matter how much you talk, and how
honest you are. It has much less to do with dishonesty than just basic
physics of it all. Nevermind how much can be "avoided", or "hidden" thousdands of miles away.