This is the only advice
I can give to others. I thought about this after reading someone please kill me
, and realizing how much people's self-worth
was based on what they thought others thought about them. Fuck that
. You are whatever you make yourself. If people don't like that they can go and get fucked
. I will agree, for those who base their self-worth on other people's evaluations, this can be a difficult concept
. It took me a few years to get it right, and I still get self-conscious
sometimes. But you must remind yourself that other people's opinions do not matter
. If they like you, that's cool
. If they don't, that's cool too. But don't base your self-worth on what they think. Here's a few rules:
- Someone will always be better at what you do than you are. I will probably never be as good a programmer as John Carmack. But that's okay. I'm a good programmer, he's a better programmer. C'est la vie.
- Someone will always find a problem with you. They don't realize it or they're evil fucks, but they will always find a way to try to make you feel bad for something about you. Fuck them.
hmm. kessinich is right. i did use fuck a few times in that little rant. oh well; sorry if i offended someone (not really).
update, re. tem42:
I'm not telling everyone
to walk up to their neighbor
s and tell them to go to hell
. I'm saying that if you are basing your self-worth
on what others say about you or how they act towards you something's wrong. This isn't to say everyone needs to be self-absorbed
, or think that there's no room for self-improvement
. But in my experience
very few people are limited by self-absorbtion; most are limited by worrying how others will percieve