It's always kind of disheartening, when here you are, having spent years and years rethinking shit, mercilessly dissecting the biases that you'd rather write off as "that's just how I am", other guys looking at you like you're crazy, struggling to reconcile your ideals with the reality of how your brain is hardwired... and you meet a woman who starts sentences with "I'm not a feminist or anything..."

You can't just jump in and say "Oh, you mean you'd rather be pregnant, barefoot, and in the kitchen? You mean you'd rather defer to men in every decision? Oh yeah? Well, as a man, I ORDER YOU to sprout a pair of cojones right now and start BEING a feminist dammit."... because telling women what to think about feminism is patriarchal behavior, even if what you want them to think is pro-feminist.". Catch 22.

Nevertheless, labels come and go, but results accumulate. The fact is, regardless of just about any woman's political alignment today, she'd be considered a radical feminist/suffragist/abolitionist/heretic/witch in an earlier time. So perhaps progress is continuing, and merely the word is temporarily out of favor thanks to the efforts of Rush Limbaugh and his ilk.