Maybe it's increased confidence, self-esteem, maybe it's the fact that I'm not looking, but for whatever reason whenever I'm involved and in a relationship women find me more attractive. More flirting, more attention, and usually not by those who know me personally. I mean, I'm flattered, but I'm also committed and I like who I'm with, sorry. You wouldn't be interested if I met you some other time, anyways.

Many of my male friends recognize this phenomenon, and beyond cursing it as another case of when it rains, it pours, there's not much we can do. This can really get emotional sluts into problems in a relationship.

Zari: That may be true for a few strange women, but usually I'm talking about women who don't even know my name at the beginning, let alone the fact that I'm taken. So there's something else going on.