Often used in a hierarchical
) relationship to denote the lover with whom one has the deepest level of commitment
. In some cases this bond takes the form of legal marriage
. As bigamy
is not legal, the option of having two (or more) legally wedded primaries simultaneously is not currently practicable, though non-legal
ceremonies may certainly be performed. In some cases "primary" refers to the lover with the most seniority
This term is most frequently used in relation to a couple-centric poly paradigm and refers to the partner you spend the most time with, make life decisions and long-term plans with (though, in fact, all lovers are affected by one's decisions and are usually consulted for advice and hugs), cohabitate with, etc.