(This is more
Nodeshell Liberation Front than
Nodeshell Rescue Team, I think...)
No, it's not. Sex, even bad sex is not rape, no matter how much you regret it; and more to the point, rape is not sex. It's strange how many people still don't get this, so I'll say it again: rape is not sex. It's not about sex. It's about assault. End of story.
General Wesc, me darlin', I think I have probably read a good deal more radical feminist literature than you have. I have never seen anybody make this statement except to set it up as a straw man -- I refer you to your own excellent writeup on the subject.