The Rules of Courtly Love
based on the De Amore
of Andreas Capellanus
should not be a deterrent to love.
2. Love cannot exist in the individual who cannot be jealous
3. A double love cannot obligate an individual
4. Love constantly waxes and wanes
5. That which is not freely given by the object of one's love loses its savour
6. It is necessary for a male to reach the age of maturity
in order to love.
7. A lover must observe a two-year widowhood
after his beloved's death.
8. Only the most urgent circumstances
should deprive one of love.
9. Only the insistence of love can motivate
one to love.
10. Love cannot coexist with avarice
11. A lover should not love anyone who would be an embarrassing marriage choice
12. True love
excludes all from its embrace but the beloved
13. Public revelation of love
is deadly to love in most instances.
14. The value of love is commensurate with its difficulty of attainment
15. The presence of one's beloved causes paleness of complexion.
16. The sign of one's beloved causes palpitation
of the heart.
17. A new love brings an old one to a finish.
18. Good character is the one real requirement for worthiness of love.
19. When love grows faint its demise
is usually certain.
is the constant companion of the true lover.
21. Love is reinforced by jealousy.
22. Suspicion of the beloved generates jealousy and therefore intensifies
23. Eating and sleeping diminish greatly when one is aggravated by love
24. The lover's every deed is performed with the thought of his beloved in
25. Unless it please his beloved, no act or thought is worthy to the lover.
26. Love is powerless to withhold anything from love.
27. There is no such thing
as too much
of the pleasure of one's beloved.
28. Presumption on the part of the beloved causes suspicion in the lover.
29. Aggravation of excessive passion
does not usually afflict the true lover.
30. Thought of the beloved
never leaves the true lover.
31. Two men may love one woman
or two women one man