Everybody makes mistakes and acts immature at times, and
it's easy for people of a more shallow sort to rather
go on forever hating former friends indefinitely and never
fix things up. If it's one thing I've learned, it's how
important it is to grow up and end the hatred. Here are my tips:
- Everyone is human. So everyone will make
mistakes or get carried away with their
emotions now and then. You'll never be happy
if you hold grudges for such things, because
everyone you ever meet will eventually mess up.
- Forgive. You'd be surprised at how much
better things become almost instantaneously
if you just let go a little.
- It takes two to have a conflict. It's
a guarantee that if you have conflict in your
life, you're equally responsible for it.
- Don't have regrets. You'll never be rid of
the regret that you acted like an ass and
shunned someone, so you might as well not do
it so that you can keep your conscience clear.
- Communicate. The old adage that time heals
all wounds isn't really as deep and true as
people sell it to be. You have to talk things
- Don't be a selfish asshole. Grudges are
petty little selfish needs for revenge.