writes about abstinence
in I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Instead of traditional dating
, Harris recommends that singles commit their life to God
and wait for God
to bring a partner
into their life. He argues that courting
is a much better model because traditional dating
destroys the emotional purity
of a person.
Furthermore, much of his argument is framed in terms of a question, “How would you like your future mate to be treated by other men/women?” Using this golden rule-like standard, Harris concludes that we should avoid even acts like kissing to maintain purity.
This book advocates a silly and unjustified limitation on behavior. The extrapolations made from the Bible are stretches at best and more than likely contrary to the intent of the text. Recently, a couple that followed this model spoke with me. They struck me as an incredibly unhappy couple that had little equality in their relationship. I do not recommend this model for relationships due to its exorbitant extremism.