Being a virgin I am speaking only from what I've thought about non-stop since I began puberty.

I have talked to many people about sex. I hear the same things so many times it's funny. Here are two fine examples:

Many woman say, "Just wait and let it happen and it will happen when you least expect it." Now this is referring to both love and sex, and so many women say that. Many females that lose they're virginity seem extremely let down by that fact. Basically like they've lost something they can never get back. This is understandable, after losing your virginity, as a female you have some extremely physical things changed. Plus it wasn't necessarily pleasurable and it was almost certainly painful. I can understand where women come from too, because they don't need to try to have sex, it just happens, and if you didn't force it, it would probably just happen.

Men say, "Hey man, it's really easy, just go for it, it's easy to make happen." I see male sluts going around getting laid every couple days, they're groinal regions a virtual experiment in progress. I see them using women and being assholes and getting exactly what they want when they want it. Now that previous quote was what a male slut type guy would say.

For guys, usually, losing your virginity is a lot LESS of an impact than it is for women. If it wasn't great, so what? As long as you didn't contract something, it was just a bad experience. For woman after they're first, if it was terrible, they feel let down, they hurt, they bleed. Obviously for women even after a great first time they hurt and they bleed, but perhaps it was worth it. Which would make all the difference in the world.

Sure I wouldn't mind sex, but I'm not going to go out and do what all those assholes do to get it, I'm going to be myself. Of coarse somewhere in the mix you have got to have some balls and take initiative. In our society it is the man that traditionally makes the first move. I am getting better at dealing with women and I'm sure a serious relationship is right around the corner. I suppose I'm simply writing this to get some thoughts out that have been bouncing around in my head. Anyone that would like to add to this conversation please do so, I'm interested in everyone’s opinions on this subject.

Thank you for your time.