OK, after my last little scare, I have no idea what to do now. Now my girlfriend apparently wants to start smoking again. Great. This of course, places me in a dilemma, as I have always maintained that if my partner started to smoke, I would leave them. However, I do not want to leave her.
For the author of this node to be undecided as to what to do is slightly odd. It isn't for political reasons, mainly for health reasons. She coughs up blood every so often, and is extremely ill, plus she's on the pill (bad with cigarettes). I don't want to see her getting any sicker than she is right now.
Of course, she'll probably write off any concern I have as being preaching, and say that it's her body and her choice...but I'd just be worried sick about her. She smoked for a year before and it entirely fucked up her voice, and I really hope she doesn't start again. It can't be good for someone who coughs up blood, and especially not for an opera singer.
I honestly don't know what to do. My plan is to say the following to her:
"I care about you a great deal, and I really don't want you to get any sicker than you are right now. I just want the best for you, and if you start smoking again I'll just be worried sick that your health will get even worse. Please, listen to me: don't start, for the sake of your own health and for my peace of mind. Please."
Although this will probably fall on deaf ears.
She's a lightweight. She smokes when drunk. She's going out to get drunk on Wednesday. So, failing my pisspoor efforts, I'm asking the e2 collective to help me in some way and /msg me (or email me) some advice on what to do. Not something I'd usually do, but there you go.
Writeup has no hardlinks because I say so.