I should be caught defending Sigmund "I swore off sex at 30 so now I'll proceed to screw up western civilization permanently with stupid ideas out of my own twisted mind" Freud, but... He didn't say "What does a woman
want?" He said:
What does a woman want? What does a man want?
Unfortunately nobody ever quotes the whole thing. Anyway, I still think the best answer to the question
is in a certain fairy tale
about Sir Gawain