Not everybody is an egoist
. Many people are utilitarians
Also, many people wouldn't like it because it's not real (I believe that's why Kira didn't like holosuites). Sure, it seems perfectly real, but in the back of their minds, they know it's not.
Those of us who don't want to spend our lives on the holodeck have better things to do then keep them running for you. We're going to boldly go and find species that are even sexier than that spacebabe from Borgwatch.