This is something I wrote, with hopes to have it printed in the school newspaper next year. For those of you still in high school
, please listen to some of the advice
. For those of you out of your teen years-lucky you, and now you can just look back and laugh
The teenage years may very well be the hardest, especially socially.
Our bodies are changing, along with our hormones, and emotions can change
very quickly. Perhaps the hardest thing is fitting in. Being accepted by your
peers. It’s a constant struggle, where some people come out on top and an
entire range falls behind them.
What we know as popularity is actually self-imposed if you stop to
think about it. Some people are popular because they have a great personality
and everyone likes them. But others form a group, and do everything to act as
though they are better than their peers. For some reason, many look up to
these people, believing that they would be so much happier if they could be
It’s easy to say “always be yourself.” But when so much is changing,
it’s hard to know who you really are. You wonder if you would be happier if
you wore the latest, most expensive clothes, or if you went to the wildest
parties, or if your friends were those people who presently ignore you. In
reality, perhaps one or more of these things may turn out to be what makes a teen
happy. But in many cases it turns out to be not as great as you may have
thought it to be. Or you’ll look back and have an uneasy feeling about the way
you behaved yesterday.
The only way to stay true to yourself is to do what feels right to you.
Whether it’s a popular choice with your friends, or if it means not having as
much fun one night, or even forgetting about the way your peers view you.
You may find that you’re happy just having your own kind of fun. What
others say or think is trivial, because you likely won’t ever see them again
after high school.
Adolescents are extremely judgmental. It’s immature, but the large
majority of people naturally judge everyone around them. Many are not
tactful enough to keep their opinions to themselves and actually learn what the
person is like. It hurts feelings, it keeps people from becoming friends or
going out, and can make being a teen the most miserable time of your life.
To truly be happy during your high school years you should not only try
to make yourself happy, but be considerate of others. A simple smile,
compliment, or conversation can brighten a day. But giving disapproving
looks, spreading rumors, and passing judgment can only cause pain. Keep in
mind that everyone is struggling with classes, friends, family, and many other
issues. Caring about the feelings of others will benefit everyone, because they
will likely pay you the same courtesy. Too often people forget or ignore
others’ feelings, and that’s what truly makes it hard to be a teen.