motherfucker

"There is the word 'motherfucker' one time in my Slaughterhouse-Five, as in 'Get out of the road, you dumb motherfucker.' Ever since that word was published, way back in 1969, children have been attempting to have intercourse with their mothers. When it will stop no one knows."

--Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., Fates Worse than Death

The most interesting question arising from this word (for me) is courtesy of Theodore Sturgeon's story "If All Men are Brothers...", where a planet has a utopian society based on incest. He claimed that the inhabitants tried to keep their status to themselves since they didn't get much respect. Now, I ask you: would you mess with someone from The Planet of the Motherfuckers?

I think not.

Why is mother fucker an insult?

I was thinking about this yesterday. I run bitter dark comedy routines in my head when under stress and yesterday, at least until about 2:30, sucked.

Every man who has a child is a mother fucker. Right? They fucked a woman, have a child and they become a mother fucker.

So why is it an insult?

I think it is an insult because somewhere in the United States unconscious, we are aware that many men fall down on the job of fathering and by that I mean parenting. How many single mothers are there raising one or more children alone? And society looks down on them and treats them like shit and tells each other that the kids behaving badly is because the mother is a Bad Woman, she is a Single Mother, she musta done something to deserve it or else she would Have A Man. Fucking Eve Syndrome.

Oh, fuck that. The truth is that for every single mother raising a child or children, there is one or more Mother Fucker who is fucking not acting as a father. And wilt them, I say. Gangrene to the dick. Yeah, I may sound like a bitch and I'm fine with that. Fuck the Mother Fuckers who don't take care of their children.

And that does not mean marrying someone you don't like. That's just stupid. It means staying involved with your child, supporting them, respecting the mom's boundaries, fucking dealing with it if she finds someone that she loves and feels supported by and wants to marry. Deal, ok?

Thanks.

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