An open letter to the high school females of the world:

"Why Doesn't He Ask Me to Prom?" Why doesn't someone ask me to Prom? Oh, why, why, why, why? Guys hear this every year come prom time. Girls complaining that guys always ask underclassmen, or that no guys ask them.

Well, did you ever consider asking a guy yourself? Is this too much of an intellectual concept?

The most common reasons that I have heard girls give for this are:

"But it's so hard to ask someone, what if he says no?"
Well, guys have the same problem, and most of us have managed to deal with it, so why don't you go through what we do?

"The guys all go with underclassmen anyway."
Well, maybe if you girls hadn't dated upperclassmen when YOU were underclassmen, we would think that you wanted to go out with us. Most guys get dates with underclassmen because they think that no upperclassmen girls will go with them. So ASK FIRST!

"But guys are supposed to ask girls, that's the way it goes."
Well, as long as we're reverting back to traditional gender roles, how about if women don't get paid as much as men; or worse, work in the home as homemakers. Or maybe they shouldn't vote.

Take the initiative and change something.


The High School guys of the world.

Some possible reasons, just off the top of my head:

  • He doesn't like to dance.
  • He doesn't like to go to parties.
  • He hates to wear a tuxedo.
  • He can't afford all the obligatory hullabaloo.
  • None of his other friends are going.
  • He doesn't understand what all the fuss is about.

Seriously, I never did understand what all the fuss that girls make over prom is for. Not until I was well out of college and had a fiancee to explain it to me, anyways. For women, prom seems to be a chance to be a princess for a day; to dress and act like completely mature adults with someone you like or love; a chance to dress up and fix up and makeup to be as beautiful as they've always wanted to be; a dress rehearsal, of sorts, for the wedding they've always imagined they would have. It's dream fulfillment, start to finish, and they encourage each other to make an even bigger deal out of it by trying to upstage each other.

But guys, especially teenage guys, just don't care about all that stuff. Sure they want to upstage each other, but that's about they only thing they have in common with the opposite sex at that age. They're more interested in having fun with each other, playing games, watching movies, buying their first cars, and so forth. If it's not about sports, it's about cars, and if it's not about cars, it's about computers or some other tangible toy. Fun and sex are priorities in their minds, but romance is not.

"Why doesn't he ask me to prom?" The answer is usually this simple: he doesn't particularly want to go, and you've never told him why you do.

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