This was the best piece of advice that I ever received about romance, about what to do when you are paralysed with feelings, caught in yourself.
I fell in love with a girl once. She was beautiful
intelligent, lets just
put it this way, I could write an unending
series of nodes about how I felt for that girl.
I was awkward, self conscious, unsure of myself.
I went back home for a few days and was telling
a friend of mine about my problem.
"just kiss her, if it works your
problem will be solved, and if it doesn't work she won't be
I kissed her, it worked and my head over heels
stumble took flight.
It was like stepping off the edge of a cliff, it was scary but he was right, what offence could come from one attempted kiss. He explained that it is almost expected, it is almost a compliment. The secret is in not being a stalker, not being annoyed at a possible rejection, of going through the fear and passing out the other side of it.
The friend who gave me this advice died in a climbing accident about 18 months later. He had given me this gift, a world of self confidence, a way of thinking, of not being afraid. Perhaps that added to it, the weight I gave to the advice, the idea lived on and so not as to besmirch his memory I try not to be afraid when I meet people who set my head spinning (I'm not always successful), I try to grab the life of it, to make that one step.