There's a fundamental bug in this thing we call marriage. In the standard vows, we promise to always love and cherish, honour, obey and whatnot. I didn't spot the bug at first, but now it seems pretty obvious. You can no more promise to always love someone than you can promise not to have cancer. You don't really get a choice in the matter.
Tricky, isn't it?
I find a fatal flaw
in the logic of love
and go out of my head