might take care of their appearance and manners solely for aesthetic
reasons. We all carry around an image
of ourselves in our heads, and if that image has grace
(or whatever we prefer: energy
humor), we'll be happier. It need not involve how others judge us.
Another possibility is that you want to create a pleasurable aesthetic experience for others. This would involve taking care to look good and act properly in public, even though it's relatively depersonalized
. It's like trying to turn yourself and your life into a work of art
A further question: does concern with appearances necessarily translate to superficial
ity? If I want to look good in order to make my friend
s happier, because I value their well-being
and share in their joy
, is that shallow
? Someone who judges others on their appearance is superficial, but what about someone who uses surface
s to access the depths?