Female? Tired of being expected to run a household AND run a business? People were fine with your mother's generation making 80c to a man's dollar because you split your interests and didn't concentrate 100% of your effort on money - but now the goal is total parity, while working two jobs.

Tired of the virgin/Madonna complex that rears its ugly head from time to time, no matter how permissive we get in other ways?

Tired of not having the time to make the food Martha Stewart tells you you should be making, even though it's your kids' bedtime by the time you all get home?

Tired of living paycheck to paycheck and there not being enough hours in a day?

Well, believe it or not, marketing has the solution for you. Not only are there series of romance novels and novels in general, thanks to Christian booksellers - about a bonneted young thing finding LOVE. Not a hook-up or a temporary marraige with a hot guy, or a long term shack up that didn't work out, but an actual, God-fearing, til death do us part partnership where he lives for you and builds you a house and you keep a clean home for him and are totally committed to each other and your children marriage. She's not expected to be a gorgeous siren with a gym-hard body, she's pretty for who she is, and he's not Channing Tatum but there's a sparkle in his eyes underneath that wide-brimmed hat. They own horses. They get up with the dawn and sure, they work hard - but at the end of the day they've been with their kids all day and can relax to a world where even if the crops fail the community bands together and nobody goes hungry. It's not "porn" in the sense of erotic material or X-rated photographs, but porn in the sense that it's a fetishizing of a genre, in the sense of "scenery porn", "hardware porn", etc.

Of course, the anabaptist folk who all this is based on would consider it extraordinarily unseemly to be fetishized this way, but hey, all's fair in love and commerce, right? And there's a certain attraction in this - not having to deal with the modern technology that's sometimes confusing, not having a man tethered to a cell phone that calls him to work at 2 am when a system goes down. Learning all the skills you need by 15 and simply doing them year in and year out. Having horses. Coffee with friends. Home-made bread.

And of course, to go along with your wish to join a highly insular community that in no way would ever be able to absorb you, even if you ever truly wanted in - are books on how to do simple, hearty, wholesome Mennonite and Amish cooking. Stores that sell "modest" clothing (even though if you were Amish, you'd be making your own clothing), even swimsuits that would have been acceptable in the Victorian era. There are even "etsy by proxy" sites that let you buy Amish clothing direct, complete with bishop-approved fasteners. (Your humble narrator admits that he owns and wears an actual bona fide Amish hat, which is REALLY good against the Georgia sun.)

There's a whole cottage industry of being Martha Stewart - except not a 21st century Nutley, New Jersey blue-blood high society type but a rustic, type-written church recipe book and hippie back to nature crafting type.

It represents a whole host of conflicts with the modern world rolled up into one, and the heavy pressures put on modern women leading to some kind out of outlet.

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