So what are you searching for here? At first I thought you were just fishing for a physical compliment. I thought maybe you had heard enough about how smart you were and just wanted someone to tell you how good looking you are. If that was your goal, I can sympathize. It gets old having people tell you how smart and nice you are, when have to constantly listen to your opposite sex friends tell you about the petty problems they face in their own relationships.

Just once I would like to be treated like one of those guy in candy adverts. I want some woman to completely lose her cool when she looks at me, and get so flustered because I'm so handsome. Well, reality check. I ain't got what it takes. The good news is that I think Templeton has that sort of potential. The one small picture she features on her website is a good one.

Templeton, you’re a hottie, and a redhead to boot. I gots me a thing for redheads. If I wasn't already attached and half a continent didn't stretch between us, I would sweep you off your feet. Well, I would do as much sweeping as I'm capable of anyways.

Then again, your wu is a little deeper than this and I don't feel you’re the kind of person who needs to search for compliments. Here's the lowdown. Most men are simply crass idiots. They talk a lot about what they want in a woman, but when they finally get a woman with all of those elusive qualities they desire, they're pissed cause she's too much like their mother. The only relationships I've had that were easy were with friends.

Once the person becomes a lover, you're right, all the sudden you find yourself doing things you normally wouldn't for fear that they might disapprove and leave. For a long time I was the guy all my female friends approached to discuss their relationship problems with. I listened well, and dispensed quality advice. They felt comfortable with me. I was a good friend, and because of that I was not dating material.

Unfortunately I almost always ended up falling for these women that I had become so close to, but I was too much of a friend to ever be considered for a relationship. I empathize, but I don't have any quality advice.