Being yourself is like breathing or walking: it's easy when you stop thinking about it. "Never whistle while you're pissing
", as Hagbard Celine
A lot of the writeups here talk more about how others see you, than who you actually are. That is perfectly all right. Man is a social creature and being accepted or even liked by other people is important to your mental health. I don't mean that you have to be a spineless asskisser all of the time to survive, but if you think you can "be you" without compromise you might as well go live in a cave.