Okay, so this is how it goes. To understand general relativity, here’s a brief run-through of what Einstein accomplished with special relativity and how he intended to counter its deficits with his ideas of a general theory.

Special relativity is rooted, essentially, in one of the principles of Galilean relativity: to whit, the idea that it is impossible to say whether or not you are moving. For instance, if you were running with respect to a stationary bus, you could just as easily say that you’re standing at rest and that the bus was moving away from you. Similarly, if you were standing at rest and a train whooshes by, you could just as easily say that you’re in motion and it’s actually the train that’s stationary with respect to you: there is no way to determine which one of you is really in motion. That is what the principle of Galilean relativity states: there is no test with which you can determine whether or not you are in motion. There is only relative motion; determining absolute motion is impossible.

Einstein decided that this principle was a fundamental physical law, and tried to hypothesize what would happen if you always measured the speed of light to be constant, keeping the laws of physics the same in every frame of reference. After all, it’s a clear violation of absolute motion: light is always moving; its speed is fixed, and it can never be at rest. Furthermore, if you didn’t measure it to be moving at the same speed always, you could use it as a test to determine if you’re moving: an observer at rest while you’re in motion calls out a different speed than the one you measure, and suddenly you know you’re in motion, simply by working out the math. Fair enough. So Einstein rolled up his sleeves, and came up with thought experiment after thought experiment to see what would happen. The results? Time dilation and Lorentz contraction (the relevant thought experiments that showed this I won’t go into, as you’re already familiar with them). In your own frame of reference, moving at a particular, invariant speed, you would observe fundamental quantities to be quite different from another observer moving at another speed. If you tried to see whether or not you were moving with respect to a photon, time and space would change for you so that you would always measure the speed of light to be the same, regardless of how fast you moved. Galilean relativity, with one major modification, has been preserved: light is permitted to be in a state of absolute motion, and your measurement of time and space would change so that you could no longer really tell if you were moving with respect to the photon – you would measure the speed of light to be the same in all reference frames, making it impossible to use as a test for absolute motion. It was thus still impossible to determine a state of absolute motion, except unless you excluded light from consideration.

That, then, was the edifice on which special relativity was based on: preserving the idea that absolute motion is a no-no. Yet special relativity is called special for a reason: it only holds if you’re constantly moving at the same velocity. Indeed, all the laws of special relativity held for the special case of when you weren’t accelerating at all. That was Einstein’s problem: how do you preserve the Galilean principle if you’re accelerating?

You see what it means. Acceleration means taking inertia into account: you ‘feel’ a certain force operate on you whenever the car you’re in accelerates or brakes, and you can instantly tell that you’re in motion. True, Newton’s third law states that an equal and opposite force operates on the car; but what if you were accelerating with respect to a house twenty metres away? You couldn’t honestly say that the house felt a similar force: its twenty freaking metres away, for goodness’ sake, you’re nowhere near in contact with it. How do you accommodate the force?

This occupied Einstein’s mind for years. And one day, he got it.

Imagine, for a moment, you’re in an elevator that’s initially moving at a particular speed, say, down. Suddenly, it accelerates: you feel a rushing force as this happens, and must conclude that you are, sighing as you do so, in motion. But wait! Little did you know that, in actual fact, the elevator hasn’t accelerated at all: it’s merely that the mass of the Earth has spontaneously changed (yeah, I know it sounds ridiculous, but bear with me for a moment). Thus, the force of gravity changed – so what you’re actually feeling is simply the force of gravity.

If you think I’m going barmy saying all this, here’s another way to think of it. Would you, as an observer in that elevator, be able to distinguish between the two situations? You could say, on one hand, that you were at rest with respect to the elevator (you’d be moving at the same speed as it is, remember) and that the elevator accelerated. Or you could also say that the elevator was perfectly stationary (at rest with respect to you) and that its (or the Earth’s) mass changed spontaneously, so you felt a force that made you feel as if you were in motion. There is no test to determine which of these situations is correct. 

This was the germ of general relativity: a theory of relativity that could take into account accelerating frames of reference and not just those at a constant velocity. Einstein’s great insight was to realize that a body in acceleration with respect to a stationary observer is virtually indistinguishable (to the observer) from a body that is at rest in a changing gravitational field with an observer that is in motion. Einstein could account for the force now: he linked it to a changing gravitational field. Accelerating and being stationary in a changing gravitational field are indistinguishable. And thus the Galilean principle was saved once more.

Now here’s a thought experiment from special relativity. It’s important to GR, so I’m going to explain it to you.

Imagine you’re in a circular chamber that’s spinning round and round at a constant angular velocity. For some reason you want to measure the value of pi: this is weird, but you’re a mathematician who wants to be a theoretical physicist, so that’s okay. Now what’s pi? The ratio of the circumference to the diameter of this oh-so-wonderful circular chamber you’re in. Ergo, you have to measure both the diameter as well as the circumference to arrive at a value of pi. So you steady up your nerves, ignore your dizziness and set to work.

First, you measure the diameter. So far so good. Because you’re measuring something perpendicular to the direction of the chamber’s motion, Lorentz contraction doesn’t happen: your rod stays exactly the same length, and you manage to arrive at a reading that is exactly what you’d find if the chamber was at rest. Hopes high, you begin to measure the circumference of the chamber. But now you’re in the direction of motion: Lorentz contraction makes your ruler shrink, except you don’t realize this because you’re also moving at the same speed. Naturally, when you finally check your readings, you’re surprised to see that the circumference is actually longer than what you measured it to be at rest. And when you put those two numbers together – a longer circumference divided by the same diameter – you get a value for pi that is no longer 3.14159etc.

The value of pi – your measurement of it - has changed while you were moving at a constant velocity. You can be tempted to ignore it, but this will always be true. What can you conclude from this?

If you are as well-versed in mathematics as I suspect you are, then you probably already know where this is going. Different values of pi are characteristic of regions that are not Euclidean: that are not perfectly flat, so to say, that are curved in one way or another. One example is the curved surface of a (soccer) football, where it is perfectly possible to draw a triangle with three right angles, and other weird things; such spaces are not flat, and are thus not classified as Euclidean. Thus one is forced to conclude that an observer moving at a constant velocity measures events to no longer conform to a Euclidean background: that the events a speeding observer notices is virtually indistinguishable from those that occur on a curved surface. Space and time distort from him in a way that make sense only and only on a curved surface: thus, even in special relativity, one finds evidence that space and time are curved for the observer, and that the observer will accordingly behave as if he’s on a curved surface.

A word of caution here. When I say space and time 'curve' for the observer, I don’t mean they literally curve. Time and space are not, as a friend once told me, ‘fly rods that can be bent over physically’. It is merely that your measurements of time and space are such that they are typical of a curved surface: distances become longer or shorter, the time taken to cover them vary, and so on. Time and space do not ‘curve’: only your measurements of them – distance, length, time – do, so that you could very well conclude you’re moving on a curved surface.

And all this happens when you’re moving at a constant speed: within even the bounds of special relativity. When you’re accelerating – switching from velocity to velocity – your measurements of space and time are going to ‘curve’ more and more: you will measure successively changing values of pi, longer distances, longer times to travel. And since acceleration is indistinguishable from a changing gravitational field, this means that objects that are really in a gravitational field will measure the same things: they will begin to behave exactly as if their measurements of space and time were similarly twisted, so that they too were on curved surfaces that gained more and more curvature as the force of gravity increased. 

Thus, an object in a gravitational field will begin to behave as if it is on a curved surface that is steadily growing curvier (I’m sorry, that word evokes images of bikini babes. Nevertheless, it is all I have). This, I think, is Einstein’s most profoundly insightful idea. Gravity isn’t a force that changes the trajectory of objects around it; what actually happens is that objects within a gravitational field are merely trying to obey Newton’s first law (i.e continue unimpeded with the same velocity in the absence of a force) while on a curved background. Geodesics are straight lines on their surfaces too, remember? There is no ‘force’ involved: merely an object trying to follow Newton’s Euclidean laws in a non-Euclidean world. I always find this magical.

And that’s it, really. 

To summarise: 

Being at rest in a changing gravitational field is indistinguishable from accelerating. When you’re moving at a constant velocity, you are forced to make observations that only make sense if you accept that your space and time are those that are appropriate to a curved surface. Thus, when you’re accelerating, your observations correspond to steadily changing curved surfaces, and you will behave exactly like you were on a curved metric. Since accelerating is indistinguishable from being in a gravitational field, objects that are in a gravitational field behave as if they are on steadily changing curved backgrounds too. They carve out geodesics instead of straight lines because, on a curved surface, geodesics are the only ‘straight’ lines possible. Hence, planets form ellipses around the sun: space and time are so warped for them that their closest conception to a straight line is an ellipse.

That’s all there is to general relativity. It’s probably not the best kind of explanation I could give – I was trying to convey the main ideas the quickest way I could – so do tell me if there’s anything I didn’t clarify enough.