It's simpler than a lot of people think. Just ask them questions and make them talk. Whatever the topic is does not really matter, women like it if you show interest in their life. This is why remembering dates is important. Now, you need to able to supply conversation at times too, this isn't always appropriate (easpecially in bed after sex). Also, don't be too wrapped up in finding a girl. The best thing to do is be cool, not James Dean cool, but what is cool to you. Remember, the ones you don't expect that come up to you and go after you are usually the best ones, don't always rule em out.