The opposite of BDSM is loosely called vanilla sex, a term that roughly refers to sex without any elements of BD, DS, or SM. The distinctions between vanilla sex, foreplay, and BDSM are not clear-cut. How you describe yourself is largely a matter of personal choice. Many common vanilla activities are in
fact components of BDSM. But if you want to think of yourself as vanilla with a twist of mint, by all means do so. Source:

What you do when your SO doesn't like being spanked, tickled, handcuffed, restrained, sodomized, whipped, gagged, blindfolded, tied up, and/or covered in baby oil tied down and masturbated to orgasm repeatedly for an hour. And believe it or not, there are girls out there that don't like that stuff.

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