The concept that two people who have absolutely nothing in common with each other will be mutually attracted to the mystery of the other. It holds surprisingly well, despite the fact that you're often told to discuss similar ground and mutual interests on a first date. Maybe the guy who sings "Breakfast at Tiffany's" actually has a shot...

A possible scientific explanation for this is that it helps add diversity to the gene pool and to the relationship, because the two contrasting styles of thought of the two individuals can help solve a problem, so long as they listen to one another's views rather than just dismissing them - and you'd hope they wouldn't dismiss the views of their partner in a relationship!

Although this therefore helps in some instances, things can break down if the differences become too wide and begin to seep into everyday life, such as if the couple begin to argue about trivial things that they disagree on. I've seen this happen, albeit to a small extent, and have reason to believe it has caused the break-up of other people I know. After the initial attraction of being opposite, it can sometimes be a bit tough to face the rest of your life with someone so different.


She prefers a healthy diet
I favor junk

She listens to soothing instrumentals
I want some guitar.

She likes a late night dessert
I love something sweet in the morning:

a chocolate croissant or the triangle
at the base of her spine.

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