This is a hard subject. I have been in situations, where my current love intrest had been living thousands of miles away. We met, and fell in love
in the same areacode
. We kept the relationship going by travelling frequently, and running up huge long distance
bills. I have also been in the unfortunate situation of meeting, then "falling in love"
when we were apart. That wasn't a good thing.
When you have a big physical absense, yet the emotional closeness
it can fog your vision. It is easier to dismiss faults
, those little nagging things that seems to often get in the way. It is also possible to build up your love
to a point of impossibility. There reaches a point where even the most perfect
person, can never compare to this perfect image in your mind. A lot of people can get hurt this way.
Nothing can match the reality of two people living their lives together. No matter how much you talk, and how honest
you are. It has much less to do with dishonesty than just basic physics
of it all. Nevermind how much can be "avoided", or "hidden" thousdands of miles away.