Photo: my sister
pink glove dance: thanks to all of the medical providers who worked so hard for her
let the sun shine in: sometimes everything is done and death is still with us
Mein Freund ist Mein Three parts: the soul, the spirit and the oboe. a love song for my sister.
wish list: are you listening?
what bothered me by the time I went for a walk:
is not only that most of my comments were ignored
but that the way Montag was being "teased" was this:
18:09 My other musical obsession just now is this.
18:09 It's beautiful.
18:10 pretty bird pretty bird, oh, dear, I took ornithology in the early 1980s, dang memory files......
18:10 The Regina Spektor piece doesn't do it for me. Maybe you have to be in a certain frame of mind.
18:10 Similarly excellent music from the previous game.
18:11 Regina Spektor, now? Jesus, Montag is *definitely* a girl in secret trying to turn EC straight without him knowing.
18:11 What does "OST" mean?
18:11 Well, he likes Tori Amos.
18:11 Official Soundtrack.
you know, I am really tired of the "you're a girl" as an insult.....
and if "you're a girl" isn't an insult, how exactly was it meant? A compliment? Were all of the males in the catbox instantly jealous of the "girlishness" and would have been proud to have it said to them? As proud as if they were brave and manly and so forth?
People have stressed how kind my sister always was. Why, may I ask, is it only women who are expected to be kind? My sister had just died. You could have been kind. And I was not just talking about birds, I talked about golf and I also put up a musical link. Would males be too girlish to actually be kind? That's what I think: you are willing to honor it in a woman, but scorn it in a man, and if a woman complains about her treatment in a group of males, she ought to stay away if she can't take it: that is, can't take the abuse. Because that is what it is: subtle dismissive and silencing abuse.
are you listening?
How about a brevity quest on the subject of silencing, of women who have experienced this and of men who have witnessed it or refused to participate? And not just women, but someone conservative in the catbox who is outnumbered, for example. Or do remember being silenced as a child and not listened to, not believed, belittled, dismissed? We are saying this is a community, but what I want to know is if it is a kind community or not. Whether it is a kind of community that I want to remain involved in.
Let me know if there is anyone interested in sponsoring this quest. And no hurry, I certainly am a bit raw right now, as well as still sick.