and I moved into our new apartment
about 2 weeks ago, and no one has had a chance to come over and see it. So Erin
decided to invite an old friend of hers over to dinner, and to bring a date.
Normally I'd be ok with this; at our old places, we held casual parties all the time, and every Thursday night
we have a mini-get-together. We usually watch a movie or some TV, listen to music, and sometimes
was always a guest.
This was different.
I met guest #1 (Roy) a few times before but never *really* got to know him. Guest #2 (Renee) I had never met before. I had no idea what to think of these people, what their likes or dislikes were, or if they liked beer. These were strict Erin-friends.
It turns out they were a nice, normal couple. You know, the kind your parents would have over when you were a kid. We talked about jobs, cooking, and the meal before us. We drank red wine
and had a nice chicken and vegetable dinner. They even brought a baked-from-scratch pumpkin pie
. We played a round of Balderdash
, then we listened to mellow music
, and finally finished the night off with sitting on the couch and talking.
Just like my parents did
At first I thought that I wasn't quite in the come-over-for-dinner stage in our relationship
with Roy and Renee. I thought a pair of couples should go out and do something a few times first.
But after some thinking (mainly done during the writing of this node
) I slowly began to realize; it's times like these when you really get to know someone. You really get a feel for their normal personality
, the people you will become friends with. Not the party-person
that lasts merely one night long.
," as any party-goer
will know, can be wildly different from a true friend
. I know how I act at parties, and it isn't "me."
This is the first day of my life that I took a relatively
dull night (no hundreds of people! no 40-foot music video screen! no fog machine!
), and found it truly meaningful. This night was something to write in the diary of my
life, as opposed to writing it off as a one-night thing. I expect to see these people again, and I expect us to have a life-long friendship of respect and decency.
I think I'm beginning to grow up.